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Dear Fang, With Love
Dear Fang, With Love: A novel | Rufi Thorpe
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From the acclaimed author ofThe Girls from Corona del Mar,a sprawling, ambitious new novel about a young father who takes his teenage daughter to Europe, hoping that an immersion in history might help them forget his past mistakes and her uncertain future.Lucas and Katya were boarding school seniors when, blindingly in love, they decided to have a baby. Seventeen years later, after years of absence, Lucas is a weekend dad, newly involved in his daughter Vera's life. But after Vera suffers a terrifying psychotic break at a high school party, Lucas takes her to Lithuania, his grandmother's homeland, for the summer. Here, in the city of Vilnius, Lucas hopes to save Vera from the sorrow of her diagnosis. As he uncovers a secret about his grandmother, a Home Army rebel who escaped Stutthof, Vera searches for answers of her own. Why did Lucas abandon her as a baby? What really happened the night of her breakdown? And who can she trust with the truth? Skillfully weaving family mythology and Lithuanian history with a story of mental illness, inheritance, young love, and adventure, Rufi Thorpe has written a wildly accomplished, stunningly emotional book.From the Hardcover edition.
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Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks
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I LOVED Margo‘s Got Money Trouble and was happy to see this one on my shelf by the same author!!

#Newtoyouauthor
#Aboutabook

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Eggs Wonderful!! 4mo
ErikasMindfulShelf It‘s another great one. I‘ve really liked all her books. 4mo
Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks @ErikasMindfulShelf yay!! I may read it next! 4mo
sarahbarnes Love it when that happens! 4mo
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BkClubCare
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Road Trip
On way to KCMO for St Patrick‘s Day party ☘️

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Erinreadsthebooks
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Mehso-so

Not my favorite Rufi Thorpe book. Of course the writing was good because Rufi Thorpe (hello), but something about this book didn‘t grab me. I skimmed parts, yet other parts were so well done it was like moments of brilliance. I can‘t explain, but I‘m definitely ready to move on.

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Erinreadsthebooks
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Why‘s he judging me?

Ruthiella ❤️🐶❤️🐶❤️ 13mo
dabbe Hello there, sweet pup! 🖤🐾🖤 13mo
ShelleyBooksie So handsome!!!♡ 13mo
Allyneedsbooks 🤗🤗🤗🤗 13mo
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Chelsea.Poole
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Rufi Thorpe writes the kinds of books I love to read. In this one, Vera and her father travel to Lithuania and discover much about each other and themselves. Musings on what it means to be a person in the world, genocide, rape, ancestry, mental illness and so much more abound and somehow it all works out for a quirky yet touching read.

Megabooks She is wonderful! 1y
bnp This sounds quite interesting. 1y
sarahbarnes This sounds very good. I haven‘t read her before and now I want to. 1y
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Chelsea.Poole
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Dear Spring, I love you 💕

Erinreadsthebooks Dear Spring, I love you…and Rufi Thorpe 😁❤️🙌🤩 1y
dabbe Da sweetest kitty! 🩵🐾🤍 1y
Chelsea.Poole @Erinreadsthebooks yes!! Rufi for life! 😆 1y
Chelsea.Poole @dabbe he is! Except when he‘s hungry and then watch out! 😂 1y
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Kaylasreads22
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Mehso-so

It was So- So but read it

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Chelsea.Poole
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📖 + ☕️ = 💗

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Chelsea.Poole
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Soccer for my 8 year old ⚽️
Book for me 📖
And this evening is GORGEOUS 🌞

Aims42 Nice!! I‘m out at my husband‘s softball game 😎 2y
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Reviewsbylola
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Just realized I forgot to post my spring #booked2021 reads. 🤦🏼‍♀️

Librarian Tales #libraryorlibrarianintitle

Dear Fang #setincountrywhereUNpeacekeepersare

We‘ve Got Answers #antiracism

Piranesi #musicalinstrumentoncover

Skylark #translatedtoyourfirstlanguage

Chase Darkness With Me #hearhere

Cinfhen Woohoo 🥳 Well done!! Did you submit before July3??? Otherwise these will all count as read for the third quarter drawing 😁 3y
Reviewsbylola No, I never submitted. That works though! Time to start on the third quarter. 🤗 @Cinfhen 3y
Cinfhen 💕 3y
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Reviewsbylola
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A good book, a fragrant bath bomb, and a 🥔 mask. Because why not. 😂 #bathandbook

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BarbaraBB
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Mehso-so

When Vera is diagnosed with Bipolar I her father takes her on a trip to Vilnius, #Lithuania. He hopes to help her dealing with this diagnosis and to learn a bit more about his own ancestors. A lot happens to both of them. I enjoyed the growing intimacy between them and the city‘s history but the book as a whole felt a bit too shattered. Thorpe wanted to tell too much.

#ReadingEurope2020 🇱🇹 #ReadYourSign: Passionate, independent character ♏️

Librarybelle Great review! 4y
Clwojick Great start to #ReadYourSign! 4y
Megabooks I‘m sorry you didn‘t love it as much as I do. I felt like the shattering of the narrative fit well with the shattering of Vera‘s mind. That progression seemed to make sense to me. Great review, though! 4y
Meaw_catlady 💙💙💙 4y
BarbaraBB @Megabooks That sounds plausible indeed. But there were so many storylines I felt a bit lost at times. That may be good indeed. I had a good time reading it anyway! 4y
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BarbaraBB
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I guess that means I must check out Milosz!

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mklong
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Books like this one are why I love reading challenges. I only picked it up because it is set in #Lithuania and I needed that one for #ReadingEurope2020, but I ended up really liking it. It explores heavy topics like accepting a diagnosis of mental illness and how heavy family history can weigh, but is told with great heart and humor.

Many thanks to @Megabooks for putting this one on my radar!

Librarybelle Glad you liked this! 5y
squirrelbrain Sounds great - stacked. 5y
BarbaraBB I‘ve just bought this one too for the challenge, thanks to @Megabooks 😀 5y
Reviewsbylola Meg is the one who reminded me I need to read this one too! 5y
Megabooks I‘m so glad you liked it! @BarbaraBB and @Reviewsbylola I hope you both enjoy it too! 5y
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Megabooks
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This book interests me for the armchair travel to Vilnius, Lithuania & also because it shows the perils of traveling with mental illness.

Lucas & his daughter Vera travel to Vilnius after Vera has a tough school year due to a bipolar diagnosis. Lucas also wants to find family left after the Holocaust.

The book is told between Vera‘s increasingly unstable emails to her boyfriend Fang, & Lucas‘s first person narration as part of the travel group.

Librarybelle Good choice! I‘ve seen this around but had not heard too many reviews about it. Stacking it! 5y
Megabooks @Librarybelle Great! I hope you enjoy it! 5y
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Cinfhen I‘ve previously stacked but now I need to move it up 5y
Megabooks @Cinfhen I really liked it!! 5y
BarbaraBB Lithuania! Wow! Well done! 5y
Megabooks @BarbaraBB thanks!! 😁😁 I was impressed with your Estonia and loved the bad review! 😂😂 Sometimes “pans” are the funniest reviews. 👍🏻👍🏻 5y
Reviewsbylola I bought this one a long time ago but have yet to read it. 5y
Megabooks @Reviewsbylola I think you‘d like it. 5y
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TheLibrarian
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#bookmail - in case you haven‘t noticed, I have a huge book buying “problem”

#TMNT

Karkar I do not see a problem.... 🙈📚 6y
Chasing_Pages Awesome blanket!! 6y
AmyG Hahaha...we all have a problem. 6y
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Slajaunie Book buying is never a problem! 6y
TheLibrarian @Karkar @Slajaunie I agree but now only if my husband thought the same thing! 6y
TheLibrarian @AmyG This is one reason why I love the Litsy community!! 6y
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BeckyRoy
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One of my all time favorite things to do—get up before everyone else, drink coffee and read a book by the Christmas 🎄 tree with My dog Gomez. #dogsoflitsy

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BookNAround
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I abandoned this two years ago. (Boy does time fly!) It‘s about time I got back to it and get it off my bedside table so there‘s room on it when I (hopefully) get books for Christmas. 😉

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Reviewsbylola
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I‘ve had this on my TBR for far too long.

Vera is the product of whirlwind relationship between her young parents. She has grown up only seeing her father on weekends, but after she suffers a psychotic break in high school, her dad becomes someone to #leanon.

This is the story of the time they spend in Lithuania during the summer after Vera‘s psychotic break. I read this author‘s first book and gave it five stars. #septemberdanes

Kalalalatja It sounds really good! (edited) 6y
Cinfhen I thought this book was actually something else so I was so confused from your description 🙄your book sounds good! Have u read the Wilson?? I think it was a #BOTM?!? Maybe not 😜 6y
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DarcysMom
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Pickpick

🌟🌟🌟🌟
#audiobook
#overdrive

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DarcysMom
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DarcysMom
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It was a beautiful, cloudy day for a walk. 😁
#audiowalk
#800in2018
#84ForFebruary
#overdrive

mcipher I need to follow your example! If I have an hour lunch break and I really want to read, why not walk and read?! 7y
DarcysMom @mcipher I love it! I can't imagine walking without an audiobook. 7y
Kaye What is your 800 in 2018 for ? Is that how many miles you hope to walk ? 7y
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DarcysMom @Kaye 800 miles is my baseline goal for the year. I hope to hit a stretch goal to be determined. 7y
Kaye Sounds great. I always watch for your posts of your maps and your photos. Keep up the good work. 👍 7y
DarcysMom @Kaye Thank you! 💞 7y
Kaye Could you tell me the name of the app you use to get all your info about your walk ? I was wondering if it‘d work on my iPod. 7y
DarcysMom I use Map My Walk. I love it. I have an android, but I am sure it is available for Apple as well 7y
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mabell Was that a howl? 😂 7y
DarcysMom @mabell He got so excited when I asked him if he was a good boy, that he had to sit down and howl a little. 7y
mabell So cute!! 😂 He says of course I'm a good boy! 7y
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readtheworld
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Currently reading and loving #DearFangWithLove. It‘s making me want to jet off to Lithuania and soak in the history...

BooksForEmpathy I enjoyed this one so much!! Made me want to travel too!! 7y
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Purrfectpages
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This one is technically a cheat, but it‘s a fun cheat regardless. #fangsoutfriday #hallowreads

emilyhaldi 👍🏻👍🏻 7y
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RowReads1
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Some used bookstore finds. The photo didn't come out quite right🤷🏻‍♀️.

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cocomass
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Pickpick

This book surprised me in a really good way. I don't know what I was expecting exactly, but it was fabulous. It was about fathers and family ties and history and mental illness and Lithuania. It was so engrossing, at times laugh-out-loud funny and occasionally quite sad. I was interested in EVERY character as well as how they interacted with each other. I loved it. 5/5 ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ #recommendsday

MrBook Great review! 7y
BooksForEmpathy I loved this one, too! 7y
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SarahRotenberry
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Pickpick

As I was trying to organize my thoughts into a review of this book; I came across this interview from the Magic and Musings blog with the author, Rufi Thorpe. This portion in particular really speaks to the parts of the book that I found most engaging and thought-provoking.
The relationship between the mostly-absent father and his newly diagnosed 17 year old daughter is also wrapped in secrets and mystery - makes for a good read.

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cocomass
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Just getting into this audiobook today. I chose it on a whim and am already engaged. #hoopla #audiobooks

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Liberty
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Day 17 of the #RiotGrams challenge: get crafty! I am not crafty in the least, but I do have this gorgeous place marker that the awesome Rufi Thorpe made to go with her awesome book. 💕

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BookNAround
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I thought I'd have more time to read today but moving a kid out of college has a way of sucking the hours away at warp speed. Now I'm recovering on the couch with Gatsby and my book.

Melissa_J Gatsby is such a cute schnauzer 🐶 8y
BookNAround @Melissa_J She's my heart. ❤️ 8y
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The phrase, "Don't judge a book by its cover" is a saying because we do judge based on aesthetics, attractive presentation and what catches our eye. Which is a shame in this case, because this cover is a total dud in my opinion, and the book so far seems pretty good. I'm thinking the cover doesn't do it justice, at all.

Reviewsbylola This cover doesn't bother me but I totally agree, good covers are vital and I totally judge them. (edited) 8y
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Oh my goodness what a haul (and finally a second book with love in the title #lovetitles)! I have been wanting to read these and hadn't gotten them yet so I'm on cloud 9. Thank you my dear valentine, Karin!!! And thank you Gloria for making Valentines Day so much fun!!!

8little_paws Yay I'm glad you like your package!! 8y
Texreader @8little_paws Oh yes! So thoughtful!! Thank you again!! 8y
LeahBergen 😍😍 8y
Reviewsbylola Great gift! I need to read Dear Fang. 8y
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KarenUK
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#day14 #feistyfeb #lovetitles ...seeing as it's Tuesday... thought I'd do a #TBRTuesday with 'Love' in title..... been meaning to get to all of these....

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catieohjoy
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Just a few favorite reads of 2016! Happy New Year, everyone!

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theshrinkette
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Turns out I've barely read any books set in Eastern Europe. I did however listening to this very touching book earlier this year- When 17 year-old Vera has a breakdown one day at school, her estranged dad takes her to Lithuania, hoping the trip will ease their relationship and her mental health. The nuances of the connections in the book are spectacular, and it all comes beautifully together.

Got any recs for me?#photoadaynov16 #EasternEurope

Hoopiefoot I'm in the same boat as you and also loved this book. 8y
Megabooks This was one of my favorite summer books! 8y
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merelybookish
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I was initially attracted to the cover, but the book itself is an engaging and layered story about knowing ourselves and others, family relationships, family history (writ large and small), and coming to terms with mental illness. My one quibble is with the character of Fang who functions more as a device than a developed person. (Or maybe that's the point?) Either way, I enjoyed the book and the writer's style.

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dylanisreading
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4 stars. This book was not what I expected--in the best way possible. Its many layers discuss family mythology and history and their effects on identity, the Holocaust, mental illness, absentee fatherhood, mothers. (I could go on.) And it does so in a completely absorbing and engaging manner.

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This is my book club's next pick (because I suggested it), and it's so quietly good. Thorpe really captures that world shift experience that a mental illness and its diagnosis can bring about in a family. #bookclub

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sumaiyya.books
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Here's a fulfilling read with an excellent cast of characters - each brought something unique to the story. It tackles several relevant themes like mental illness in contemporary context, dealing with the past and searching for lost family long after a catastrophe has come and gone. I think best part was Thorpe's brilliant foray into mental illness and the father-daughter dynamic. A sharp eye opening read. Full review on IG #sammybookreview

merelybookish I picked this up at the library, mostly because I liked the title and cover. Glad to hear it's a good read too. 8y
sumaiyya.books @merelybookish hope you read it soon!! It's wonderful. 😊 8y
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Alena
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This little beauty paired wonderfully with lots and lots of book talk! #dirtywatermelon #booklovers #booksandbooze

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BooksForEmpathy
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Rufi Thorpe is masterful and if I were a writer, I would want to write books like hers. This one is brimming with all. the. things.

She writes: "I am fascinated by the way our understanding of things changes over time, including our understanding of people. By the time we're adults, our whole notion of the world has changed from when we were teenagers. There's this constant shifting of perspective."

Go into this one cold. You'll be surprised.

Reviewsbylola I need to buy this. 8y
BibliophileBytheSea Need to get to my eGalley. Your enthusiasm shows. I read her previous book and liked it. 8y
jessdean I love that quote! So true!:) 8y
mauveandrosysky Well, I'm sold! 8y
MrBook Great review! 😎👌🏻 8y
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One of three #books I'm #currentlyreading is Dear Fang, With Love by Rufi Thorpe. I feel this particular passage, from Vera's journal, is very powerful. It resonated with me.
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#dearfangwithlove #rufithorpe #adultlit #realisticfiction #realisticbooks #mentalhealth #mentalillness #fatherdaughterrelationship #lithuania #vilnius

Bette I love it. Thank you. ☺️ 8y
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Librarylady
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The Olympics or Dear Fang? It's a hard choice.

BethFishReads I can't for Olympics to end. Cutting into my reading time 8y
[DELETED] 2232195534 I'm about ready to be finished with the Olympics. It's fun and then a little overwhelming. 8y
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Just finished novel 2 of #bookisholympics. There was also Fables, which wasn't quite long enough to be a novel...so maybe it's a short story?? Working on reading 4 short stories for bronze.

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