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You All Grow Up and Leave Me
You All Grow Up and Leave Me: A Memoir of Teenage Obsession | Piper Weiss
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WeirdAtHeart

The problem with diagnoses is that they're mistaken for answers.

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DrLReads
Mehso-so

A moody and dark memoir. While a chilling exploration of abuse, Weiss‘s memoir also touches on the underbelly of wealthy prep-school kids, many seemingly unencumbered by parental supervision. The “contemporary” chapters felt comparably antiseptic (perhaps, deliberately so?), Weiss‘s writing as a memoirist outshining her as a crime writer.

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ClairesReads
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Mehso-so

This read fell into the “wanted to like it more than I did” category. It hits some high interest content ( crime, rich people problems, & the adolescent psyche) but it struggled to capture me. That‘s not to say that there isn‘t some excellent writing. There are some incisive moments (the section on cutting, the analysis of Weiss‘ relationship with her mother in the latter half of the book). I think this memoir struggled to be a cohesive story.

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Kappadeemom
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Camping this weekend so going to get a lot of reading done! This book is a bit slow, though. #dogsoflitsy #jackthedorkie

Reagan I want to read this one! 5y
ljuliel I want to live where you can camp in January ! 5y
AlaMich Ha! I love that Jack has his own chair! 🐶❤️ 5y
Kappadeemom @ljuliel we were at 80 today but will be in the lows of 20‘s by Monday. We have crazy weather here in Georgia! 5y
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Kappadeemom
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Reggie I think this one had so much potential! 5y
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Clwojick
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Snack time ! 💙

Headphones in, listening to the tagged book, and happily eating some cheese. #BookishWeekend

Andrew65 Can‘t beat laughing cow cheese. 😋 (edited) 6y
Cathythoughts Love laughing cow cheese 😍 6y
Seekingtardis I‘m addicted to laughing cow on my everything bagel!! Nom!! 6y
Clwojick @Seekingtardis Darn! I just ate my last bagel for breakfast, otherwise I would‘ve totally tried that! 6y
AmyG These are the BEST! 6y
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Clwojick
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Suet624
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Mehso-so

You know how it goes sometimes. It was at the library. Sounded intriguing. Some of her writing was 👍🏼. But I was disappointed that I had spent time on it when I finished the book.

Reggie The whole I‘m gonna use the story about the tennis coach to reinforce the idea that she felt second best to everything in her life frustrated the hell out of me. Cause I liked the scariness of being a girl in the city in the 90‘s and I loved the stuff about her mother and grandmother. Thought that was gold. 6y
kspenmoll @Reggie As far as I can tell, you have read everything, are insightful, & have so much to share with us Littens.❤️ 6y
Suet624 @Reggie Yes, there were some brilliant parts to the book and I think you‘ve expressed it well. And @kspenmoll, you‘re right. Reggie is a star. 6y
Reggie @kspenmoll @Suet624 oh, please, I‘m a literary bum, but thank you ladies anyways. You two are 2 of the ones I‘m glad I follow. Katherine because of your love of nonfiction and Sue because of your love for the story of the complicated woman. ❤️ 6y
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Suet624
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This quote made me chuckle. The author is discussing the fact that women change their last names when they marry. Despite being married three times my last name has never changed. I have four children and they don‘t have my last name, but everyone important to me knows that I‘m their mom. 😀

HeatherBlue Love this! I‘m the same way...I‘ve been married twice (I swear this second times gonna stick lol), and I never even considered changing my name either time. People get so upset when they find out I‘ve kept my name...my husband finds it hilarious 😂 6y
CouronneDhiver I was all too happy to kick the former name to the curb... my new name has a much more positive connotation for me. 😊 6y
Slajaunie I changed mine but my middle name is my maiden name. I don‘t mind a bit. 6y
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That-Bookish-Hiker @CouronneDhiver I felt the same way! I like my new last name much better. 6y
AmyG I didn‘t like my maiden name....which was my step-fathher‘s (who I also didn‘t like). So I was thrilled to change my name. ;) 6y
BiblioLitten My husband and I had the same last name. I would have changed it only if it fit in with my first name better. 6y
Suet624 @AmyG @That-Bookish-Hiker @CouronneDhiver I actually edited my post a bit because I thought it could be seen as being judgmental and I‘m not at all. There are, of course, many reasons to change your name. 😁😁 6y
That-Bookish-Hiker @Suet624 I didn‘t think your original post sounded judgmental at all. I love how common it is for women to chose whichever one they want. I also like hearing about why they chose to keep their last name or not. 😊 6y
Cortg I was thrilled to change my last name because no one could ever pronounce my maiden name, Czaplicke. Gardner is so much easier. I love that you have kept your maiden name though. 🙌🏼 6y
KGlibrarian I love that you kept your maiden name. I‘ve been married almost 25 years and I like that my three kids have the same last name as me but I always think back to how disorienting and confusing it was for me to suddenly take on this whole new identity. 6y
Rachel_nyc I love this quote! I remember as a child questioning why a woman should have to give up their identity to get married and most of the adults in my life thought I was crazy! 🤪 I respect everyone‘s choice in the matter but it never made sense to me in the modern world. 6y
kspenmoll My husband & I combined our names. I was Molloy; He was Spencer. Now all three of us (my son) are Spencer-Molloy. Computer software does not like us. 😀 6y
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Chelsea.Poole
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This book doesn't have the greatest reviews, and I can see why. Many felt that the author focused too heavily on her own life and not enough on the crime in this book touted as a "true crime" work. I went in expecting to read about the author's teenage years and less about her tennis coach who committed the crime, so I enjoyed it. More below ??

Chelsea.Poole The subtitle "A Memoir of Teenage Obsession" could be taken both ways, but I believe "obsession" in the title refers to the author's. I partially listened to the #audiobook on #Libby which was ?? (edited) 6y
Reviewsbylola This one‘s on my TBR. Great review! 6y
Reggie I really loved the parts about her mom and her grandmother in here. Great review. (edited) 6y
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Chelsea.Poole
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Today is my birthday...31. I'm celebrating this morning with a book, a cup of tea, and macarons from Bouchon Bakery in nyc courtesy of my sister-in-law 😍 ☕️
Everyone is still in bed from a late Christmas night and I'm enjoying a quiet moment before the boys come down the stairs. ♥️

Crazeedi Happy birthday 🎂👏👏 6y
Redwritinghood Happy birthday! Enjoy those macarons. They look yummy. 6y
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Lindy Happy birthday! 🍰😎 6y
MelissaSue81 Happy birthday! The macarons looks amazing. Today was my grandpas birthday too. He would have been 92 this year. 6y
BethM Happy birthday! 6y
Mollyanna Happy Birthday 🎂🎁🎈. 6y
JenReadsAlot Happy birthday! 6y
Ruri_kaichou What a wonderful way to start your birthday 🥰 happy birthday! 6y
Librarybelle Happy Birthday! 6y
Jas16 Happy Birthday 🎂🎉🎁🎈 6y
dariazeoli Happy Birthday! 6y
pilardib Happy birthday!! 6y
Anna40 Happy Birthday! Mine is on the 30th! You're a Capricorn too :) 6y
TaciturnWhenReading Have a happy birthday! 6y
Chelsea.Poole @MelissaSue81 thank you! Sweet, I always enjoyed my birthday on the day after Christmas and I hope he did too:) 6y
batsy Happy birthday! 🎈🎂 6y
Chelsea.Poole @anna40 oh yeah! I always identified with the profiles and characteristics of Capricorn 😊 6y
Eggs Happy Birthday 🎉🎂🎁 6y
julesG Happy Birthday! Enjoy your birthday morning! 6y
Tamra Enjoy!! 6y
mreads Happy birthday! 😀 6y
Lauram Happy Birthday 🎈🎂 6y
DHill Happy Birthday! 🎉 6y
Jilly6183 Happy birthday! 🎉🎉 6y
CoffeeNBooks Happy Birthday! 🎉🎂🎉 6y
BookishTrish Happy Birthday 🥳 6y
valeriegeary Happy birthday! A perfect way to start it off right! 6y
Theshadedbuffalo Happy birthday!! 🎊 6y
Lmstraubie Happy birthday! 🎈🎂🎁📚 6y
vicgreentoriafield Happy Birthday!! 6y
Clare-Dragonfly Happy birthday! 31 was a great year for me—May it be so for you! 6y
JessClark78 Happy Birthday! 🎊🎂🎉📚 6y
youneverarrived Happy Birthday 🎂🥂 6y
GrilledCheeseSamurai Happiest day! 🎂 6y
Bookzombie Happy Birthday!! 🎂🎈🎉 🦄🥳 6y
sprainedbrain Happy birthday!🎉🎊 6y
ErikasMindfulShelf Happy Birthday! 6y
JennyM Happy birthday. Hope you had a lovely day 😘 6y
Chelsea.Poole @Clare-Dragonfly great to hear! Here's hoping 🤞🏻 it's a nice one for me too!! 6y
Reggie Hey!!!!!! Happy Birthday!!! Any birthday with macaroons is a good Bday. 6y
MemoirsForMe Happy Birthday! 🤗❤️🎁📚🎂🎉🎉🎉 6y
Chelsea.Poole @UwannaPublishme @Reggie thank you guys!!! ☺️ 6y
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Chelsea.Poole
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This doesn't have great reviews but I'm going to give it a try anyway. I love true crime. Seen here with my favorite Christmas cookies -- Russian Tea Cakes from my mom 😋

Nebklvr I love those cookies 6y
Kelly I liked it well enough! Not mindblowing but decent. The book, that is. The cookies are always a win 😂 6y
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pgh.femme
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I feel like this attempt at writing memoir and true crime simultaneously results in failure at both. Neither teenage Weiss nor the crime she is focused on interested me enough to like this book. For a much more successful attempt at this specific genre read Maggie Nelson‘s ‘Jane‘ and ‘The Red Parts‘.

Reviewsbylola I‘ve got this on my TBR. The true crime memoir was a refreshing concept but so far it doesn‘t translate as well as I would hope in some of the other books I‘ve read. 6y
Reggie She got me with the parts about her mother and her. And I thought those parts were gold. But then she threw in the part about a tennis coach, and not being his favorite enough to stalk as an reaffirmation of her self loathing and it turned me off. I think she would have been ok leaving that part out. The whole NYC in the 90‘s being a young female, I totally bought. 6y
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Reggie
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Mehso-so

This book starts off with the 2 scariest child stalking pages I‘ve ever read. This is Piper Weiss‘s memoir about growing up in the early 90‘s NYC and being an insecure and self loathing girl so much so that she juxtaposes this memoir with the account of a tennis coach, who she took lessons from, who kills himself after a failed kidnapping of a student he was obsessed with, solely for the purposes of her to say, “I wasn‘t loved by him enough👇🏼

Reggie to be his favorite.” Which drove me absolutely nuts, because the truth is that Piper can write and I felt there was gold in here but it was squandered. Anyways, thanks @minkyb for this book. #24in48 6y
BarbaraBB I would almost stack just for that review! 6y
Reggie Lol, thanks, @BarbaraBB 6y
minkyb @BarbaraBB His reviews are pure gold! Sorry it wasn‘t a “pick” @Reggie but I am glad to help with your #24in48 numbers! 🤗Read on. 6y
BarbaraBB @minkyb They really are! 6y
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Reggie
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@minkyb Thanks so much for the cute Pick!! pin, the very neato card, ( does he know that other spaceman? Is it just a hallucination? Maybe that is his alter ego fighting for control of his mind while he‘s in a coma? Did the guy facing us kill everyone in the new space colony except for this guy who is thirsty for revenge? Is it even a he? Lol) and thank you so very much for the book which I will be reading during the readathon this weekend. ❤️

Cathythoughts Very nice 👍🏻 the book sounds great 6y
minkyb Enjoy! 6y
Suet624 I think my children have heard me mutter the title of that book a few times. 6y
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Centique I love your ruminations about the card! 🤣 6y
Reggie @Suet624 so good news, Sue, we got rain yesterday so maybe La Llorona can stay South for a while longer and 😭to your comment. 6y
Reggie @Centique when I used to work graveyards, my friend and I would make up fictional backstories for the people we saw at the casino to keep ourselves from dying of boredom. It was rather fun. (edited) 6y
Centique @Reggie it sounds like it! 🤗 6y
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CuriousG
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The 1st thing people need to realize is that this is a memoir of the author's life & although it does connect with this man and his crimes, it is *not* a detailed look solely into him. And I absolutely LOVED it for that exact reason. She puts you squarely in the experience of a privileged private school teenager. Amazing! The 2nd thing I will say...reading the last 50 pages in an isolated place as darkness came, not the smartest idea I've had. Lol

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CuriousG
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Made it through my work week! Reward is flashlight powered reading in the trailer while listening to the rain outside #heaven 📚 🌧 🌲
Although this may not have been the best choice of book to read in an isolated area in the woods. Lol

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Well-ReadNeck
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Mehso-so

Some intriguing bits. But, ultimately, focused on Weiss‘s memories and her wresting with her feelings about this past crime without any real resolution. The journalism aspects were not very strong. #LibraryThing #EarlyReviewer

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Well-ReadNeck
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#bookmail

This just in from LibraryThing‘s Early Reviewer program.

#librarything #arc

Tiyas7 What Is It About? 6y
Well-ReadNeck @Tiyas7 Weird that there is no description for this one. I‘ll pull it! 6y
Well-ReadNeck Piper Weiss was fourteen years old when her middle-aged tennis coach, Gary Wilensky, one of New York City‘s most prestigious private instructors, killed himself after a failed attempt to kidnap one of his teenage students. In the aftermath, authorities discovered that he was a child predator 6y
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Tiyas7 @Well-ReadNeck Woah...that's kinda disturbing 6y
Well-ReadNeck @Tiyas7 Agreed. I think this will be a daytime only read!! 6y
Tiyas7 @Well-ReadNeck Yepp True👍 6y
LitLogophile Ooo looks interesting 6y
AshleyS I started this last night and so far am really liking it 6y
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Biensoul
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This book...woooo...I need a minute.

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Suetara
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An appropriate choice to bring with me to #CrimeCon I think.

Chrissyreadit What is crime con? Sounds intriguing! 7y
RaimeyGallant I had never heard of the convention before. Sounds cool. 7y
tpixie Convention sounds great!! 7y
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Suetara @Chrissyreadit It‘s a true crime convention. Next year, it‘s in New Orleans. 7y
Suetara @RaimeyGallant @tpixie My friends and I have had a great time. We‘ve been to some really interesting talks. 7y
tpixie @Suetara I bet!! Glad you went! New Orleans! A perfect location!! 7y
Chrissyreadit @Suetara New Orleans is a great location. I need to look this up because it sounds so interesting. 7y
Suetara @Chrissyreadit I‘d love to go to the New Orleans one next year, but I‘m also planning a trip to the Biltmore estate and I need to see if both are feasible. It‘s been a great weekend. I‘d recommend it. 7y
TheFunkyBookworm I was there too!!!! Had an amazing time and so sad it‘s already over! 7y
Suetara @TheFunkyBookworm Me, too. It was a fantastic weekend! My friends and I would really love to go next year. I‘m trying to make it happen. 7y
TheFunkyBookworm @Suetara me too! I wish they would post the schedule earlier- we had to buy plane tix and ended up missing Juan Martinez on Sunday because we figured they wouldn‘t have any heavy hitters on the last day 😫 Hoping dateline comes back for next year!!! 7y
Suetara I hope Dateline comes back too-that was a lot of fun. I was also surprised that there were so many great sessions on the last day. They really had a strong schedule. We drove so were able to see Juan Martinez before we left. He‘s quite the character. The Ryan Ferguson session was really interesting-hadn‘t heard much about the case and his story. I have to read up on it. 7y
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EvieBee
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This was an interesting #audiobook but not what I expected. Still extremely readable! I thought it‘d be a true crime book, but it was a memoir wrapped around a crime that was perpetrated by the author‘s tennis coach. Really angsty and insightful, and a throwback to the early 90s. I wasn‘t raised in Manhattan‘s Upper Eastside and didn‘t attend private school, but after reading this through I‘m relieved I wasn‘t! 🎾🎾🎾
#libby

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Well-ReadNeck
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Sweeeeeeet! Excited to be receiving this ARC from #LibraryThing #EarlyReviewer !!!

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DebinHawaii
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#Aprella #SelfishLove ?It's a selfish stalkerish love & twisted obsession that Gary Wilensky had for his teenage tennis students. He fixated on one in particular, stalked & tried to kidnap her, failed miserably & took his own life but he "groomed" others like Piper Weiss (author of this memoir/true crime account) winning their affection by doing things like sending them handmade valentines, buying them candy & treats & paying attention to them.

Reviewsbylola I just got my hands on this one! Excited to read it! 7y
DebinHawaii @Reviewsbylola I hope you like it. I reviewed it this week for the book tour and keep thinking about it. 7y
emilyhaldi 😬😬😬 7y
Cinfhen This book keeps popping up! Curious to hear your thoughts as well @Reviewsbylola 7y
Mdargusch It sounds super creepy! 7y
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NerdyRev
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This is a true story about a tennis instructor who was obsessed, stalked, and attempted to kidnap one of his students. Told in a back and forth type style, jumping in time, and narrators. The difficulty is it is a short story, but fluffed out to fill more pages, so lots of telling and retelling of candy shop outings and the like. The good was it all took place around where I live and visited, so I knew the locations.

Reviewsbylola I just snagged this at a library sale! 7y
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tholmz
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Pickpick

Chilling. Beautifully written.

mrozzz I need to get my hands on this!! 7y
tholmz You do! 7y
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DebinHawaii
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Unique & compelling mix of coming-of-age memoir & true crime story. Piper Weiss is 14 in 1993 when her beloved tennis coach Gary Wilensky's obsession with another student results in a botched kidnapping & his violent end. One of "Gary's Girls"-Weiss weaves the 90s with present day, her youthful devotion to Gary with who he truly was & her confusion with her feelings about not being Gary's 'pick.' With a Fuzzy Navel inspired by the book--link??

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Librarylady
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This memoir is fantastic! Weiss writes of her privileged NYC upbringing in the early 90s and her tennis coach who killed himself after a scandal destroyed his career. #williammorrow #TLCBookTours

mrozzz Yay! I‘m so looking forward to it 😊 7y
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DebinHawaii
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#Aprella #CleaninOutMyCloset I totally should be cleanin' out my closet & other areas of my house but I ran errands, put away groceries & thought I needed a quick nap. Apparently I was more tired than I thought as I just slept 3 hours. 😴Now I'm camped out on the couch in non-matching pj bottoms & tee-shirt, starting this memoir/true crime #ARC for a book tour review next week. I'm only about 30 pages in, but it's interesting so far. #lazysaturday

Notafraidofwords Dying to read ! 7y
Kykat0046 I think I need to read!!!! Looks like it‘s good! 7y
Reviewsbylola Ooooh I just scored a copy of this at my library book sale (they always seem to have a few ARCs). I can‘t wait to read this. My older daughter and I took a nap today too. It was heavenly! 7y
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Cinfhen Seems like a perfect day 💖 7y
emilyhaldi Omg I can't take a nap without it being 3-4 hours long!!! So I try to avoid them unless I really have to sleep... I LOVE sleep ❤️❤️❤️ 7y
Mdargusch Sounds like a great day! 7y
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MusingsOnMidlife
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Listening to You All Grow Up and Leave Me with this lunchtime view. Not always a bad place to work 🙂 #currentlyreading #audiobook

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Christine
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I thought this was quite good. As a memoir/true crime mash-up, it feels in some ways like an incomplete version of both, but I‘m okay with that. Especially if it means the author is saving material for more memoirs/essays - because her writing was impressive and definitely the highlight of the reading experience for me.

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susanw
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Do you see my self control? Yes, only one book, and that took a lot of control. Even with that kind of control, I did have to sneak it in the house inside my appropriately book sized purse!

Alfoster 😂😂😂Have done that too! 7y
AmyG Let us know how this is! 7y
Pruzy Next time I am in a bookstore this is my number one pick! 7y
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Matilda
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wanderlustforwords An out of touch statement. 7y
Pruzy @wanderlustforwords Weiss is acknowledging that the statement is dated, incorrect, and was used as an excuse in the surrounding paragraph 7y
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Liberty
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Morning reading. 📖

Reviewsbylola I‘m really looking forward to this one! 7y
bookandcat Ooh I'm intrigued! 7y
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Matilda
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SassyBookworm Love your sticker 😍 7y
WhatDeeReads I want an Eyore sticker! 7y
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