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Men We Reaped
Men We Reaped: A Memoir | Jesmyn Ward
In this stirring and clear-eyed memoir, the 2011 National Book Award winner contends with the deaths of five young men dear to her, and the still great risk of being a black man in the rural South."We saw the lightning and that was the guns; and then we heard the thunder and that was the big guns; and then we heard the rain falling and that was the blood falling; and when we came to get in the crops, it was dead men that we reaped.?? -Harriet TubmanIn five years, Jesmyn Ward lost five young men in her life-to drugs, accidents, suicide, and the bad luck that can follow people who live in poverty, particularly black men. Dealing with these losses, one after another, made Jesmyn ask the question: Why? And as she began to write about the experience of living through all the dying, she realized the truth-and it took her breath away. Her brother and her friends all died because of who they were and where they were from, because they lived with a history of racism and economic struggle that fostered drug addiction and the dissolution of family and relationships. Jesmyn says the answer was so obvious she felt stupid for not seeing it. But it nagged at her until she knew she had to write about her community, to write their stories and her own. Jesmyn grew up in poverty in rural Mississippi. She writes powerfully about the pressures this brings, on the men who can do no right and the women who stand in for family in a society where the men are often absent. She bravely tells her story, revisiting the agonizing losses of her only brother and her friends. As the sole member of her family to leave home and pursue higher education, she writes about this parallel American universe with the objectivity distance provides and the intimacy of utter familiarity. A brutal world rendered beautifully, Jesmyn Ward's memoir will sit comfortably alongside Edwidge Danticat's Brother, I'm Dying, Tobias Wolff's This Boy's Life, and Maya Angelou's I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings.
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Jen2
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Wonderful!

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Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks
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#TBR 📚📚📚
Happy Sunday everyone!!

ChaoticMissAdventures This is such a fantastic (but heartbreaking) book. Enjoy! 1y
Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks @ChaoticMissAdventures I will! Her new one is being released October 3! 1y
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Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks
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She‘s a celeb to me!! 🖤📚❤️

#CelenMemoir
#BookBinge

Eggs So pretty 🌺, and compelling book 😢 (edited) 1y
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Scochrane26
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Even though this memoir is not the happiest, it is my favorite book of April 2021. A beautiful, sad, thoughtful memoir. #12booksof2021 @Andrew65

Andrew65 A wonderful author, should be an interesting read. 3y
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shortsarahrose
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This book is a gut punch and necessarily so. It‘s about systemic racism, but told at the micro-level of her family and community rather than the macro-level of some other works on the topic and thus brings an important perspective to the topic. The writing is urgent and painful and beautiful. So important.

Finished today as part of #Adventathon Day 22

Scochrane26 Glad you liked it. It is gut-wrenching but important. 3y
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shortsarahrose
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Warm cat in lap and book in hand #adventathon day 19

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“My parents were screaming at each other, their voices loud and carrying out of the windows, but I could not understand what they were saying. I heard one word repeated over and over again: you. You and you and you and you! This was punctuated by throwing things. The sun had set, and the evening sky was fading blue to black. Above Joshua‘s and my head, bats swooped, diving for insects. The windows shone yellow.” #Adventathon day 13

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shortsarahrose
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It‘s ok, April. I only wanted to read the epigraphs and table of contents today. 😆 Enjoy your nap. #catsoflitsy
#Adventathon Day 12

Scochrane26 She‘s so cute though 😻 3y
shortsarahrose @Scochrane26 she really is - I can‘t be mad at her when she is so darn cute! (She did eventually move so I could read for a bit) 3y
Leftcoastzen 😻 3y
BookmarkTavern Oh but look at that face! Let her nap! 💕💕 3y
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shortsarahrose
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This package from @Scochrane26 for #HHS #HauntedHallowSwap is just delightful! I‘m so looking forward to reading Jesmyn Ward‘s memoir and glad to hear that it was one of your favorites this year! Children of Men looks super suspenseful. The tea will be perfect to have while curled up with a book and the tea towel is adorable. I love the smell of the goat milk soap and know my skin can use the sugar cube scrub. So cool that they are local goodies!

shortsarahrose Thank you! And thanks to @wanderinglynn for organizing this swap! 3y
Scochrane26 Glad you like everything! 🙂 3y
wanderinglynn Awesome! 🎃🧡 3y
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"...I found the adage about time healing all wounds to be false: grief doesn't fade. Grief scabs over like my scars and pulls into new, painful configurations as it knits. It hurts in new ways. We are never free from grief. We are nervous free from the feeling that we have failed. We are never free from self-loathing. We are never free from the feeling that made this mess."

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Karmapen
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This book was so beautifully written but devastating, each loss the author suffered piling atop another. Absolutely gutting.

SamAnne Loved this one. 3y
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ChaoticMissAdventures
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#curiouscovers #grey has me looking around and thinking of #BLM racism and social justice.

@Eggs @Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks

Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks Jesmyn Ward 📚💗 4y
Eggs Beautiful 🖤🔘☑️🖤 4y
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BeckyWithTheGoodBooks
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Ward‘s memoir accounts her personal history and grief after the deaths of five Black men in her life over the course of 4 years. But it also is a broader study of the often common tragedy of being and loving Black men in the American South. Ward‘s writing is raw and superb; grief dripping from the pages. Grief not only for the lives lost, but grief for all the Black men that “wanted more for himself, but he didn‘t know how to get it.” 4 ⭐️

SamAnne Reading this book prompted me to read all her books in less than 2 months. 4y
BeckyWithTheGoodBooks @SamAnne I love her! I need to read “Salvage” and “Sing” stat!! 4y
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BeckyWithTheGoodBooks
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I started Jesmyn Ward‘s memoir today and found these two epigraphs to be incredibly moving. The quote from Harriet Tubman in particular brought me to tears.

SamAnne Such a great memoir. It has stayed with me. 4y
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TheBookDream
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Finished just in time for #AuthorAMonth. A tough but necessary read. #ownvoices

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Skygoddess1
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This was an incredible and heartbreaking memoir.the resilience that Jesmyn award has shown following the loss of five young men who were close to her within four years, 3 of whom their deaths occurred in a year. I can‘t even imagine suffering that kind of loss and finding the strength to keep moving forward and getting out of bed each day. #AuthorAMonth #BookSpinBingo

Come-read-with-me I loved this book! 4y
TheAromaofBooks Great progress!! 4y
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ValerieAndBooks
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Heart and soul wrenching. Jesmyn Ward shares her losses of men in her life — too many — and also shares statistics on mental health of men like the ones she knew and loved. Very sad but an important read.

Read for #authoramonth @Soubhiville

Suet624 This was a tough one. 4y
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Eggs
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This was tough to read but Ward writes so flawlessly that you can‘t stop. Losing friends, siblings, and cousins is excruciating especially when they are children or young adults. But those deaths teach us to love fiercely those who remain, and to survive with dignity.
#authoramonth2021 @Soubhiville
#bookspinbingo #doublespin @TheAromaofBooks

kspenmoll 💜 your review. 4y
Texreader Beautiful review. Makes me wish I‘d picked this one to read instead 4y
Eggs Thank you 🧡🧡 @kspenmoll @Texreader 4y
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TheAromaofBooks Great review!! 4y
Eggs @TheAromaofBooks Thanks 🙏🏻 4y
Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks And now she has lost her husband to covid 😥😥😥😥 4y
Eggs @Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks oh noooo💔💔 4y
Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks @Eggs I will tag you in what she wrote about it 💔💔💔 4y
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She wrote this memoir to honor her fallen friends and family, especially her little brother. Fallen of too much despair in the circuitous, neverending system of being poor, being Black, and being men in the deep south. The way Ward organized her writing was brilliant. It breaks my heart that casual racism in housing, employment, education is still causing death.

#AuthorAMonth @Soubhiville
#AwesomeApril @Andrew65 book 3

Cinfhen Wonderful choice and beautiful review 4y
TrishB Lovely review. Broke my heart too 💔 4y
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Amiable Great review! 4y
alisiakae Great review! 4y
Andrew65 Great 👏👏👏 4y
Andrew65 We need to change this situation, totally unacceptable! 4y
BarbaraTheBibliophage Couldn‘t agree more. I‘m reading a book by Sarah Brook and was just thinking I should pair it with this book. 4y
Butterfinger @BarbaraTheBibliophage that looks like another powerful read from around the same location. 4y
Riveted_Reader_Melissa This one is on my list to read this month. She‘s the #AuthorAMonth pick this month. 4y
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TrishB
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It‘s probably not a good idea to read this in one sitting, I feel a bit battered now.
A wonderful read, with so much to talk about.
Again, this is why I don‘t read a lot of NF though, because I can‘t reassure myself it‘s just a story.
Thanks Misty - you‘ve probably long forgotten you sent me this ❤️

MicheleinPhilly This book broke me. 😥 4y
TrishB @MicheleinPhilly I can‘t go to bed yet as just finished and need to quiet my thoughts. So heart breaking 💔 4y
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Scochrane26 She has a way of describing grief & helps you see the whole person, good & bad. 4y
SamAnne After I read Salvage the Bones I read all her other books in 6 weeks. That‘s not something I usually do. This one is gut wrenching. 4y
Megabooks It is just tragic! 4y
Soubhiville She‘s a new favorite author for me, and this was my first by her. Heartbreaking. 4y
Butterfinger I will probably be able to finish mine tonight. It's such a powerful book. The title itself is amazing and to think it came from Tubman. I just finished when her sister's boyfriend died. HE Knew he wasn't going to live long. So sad and awful. 4y
Cathythoughts Sounds really good ( and hard going ). Lovely Sansa ❤️ 4y
TrishB @Scochrane26 definitely agree. 4y
TrishB @SamAnne I haven‘t read that one, I‘ve read reviews that say it has a lot of animal cruelty. 4y
TrishB @Megabooks it definitely is 💔 4y
TrishB @Soubhiville she‘s an excellent writer 👍🏻 4y
TrishB @Butterfinger yes, that resignation is also soul destroying. No one should feel like that due to circumstances outside their control. 4y
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Melismatic
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Rarely do books make me cry but wow, this one sure did. Heartbreakingly raw, intense, grief-stricken, the author lifts up the lives of important men in her life who were taken from her. It‘s a brutal read but a fundamental one. #AuthorAMonth

TrishB This is my next read I think! 4y
Melismatic @TrishB it‘s a doozy! 4y
Soubhiville Yes! Great review. 4y
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I. A character from The Nightingale 😭 but don‘t want to do a spoiler

II. Quite difficult to narrow down to 1, but I‘ll say How to Walk Away

III. ⬆️

#thoughtfulthursday @MoonWitch94

julesG Thanks for the tag. I'll need to think on this. 4y
CaroPi Oh I know which character! The sister, right?Totally agree. I was also thinking about this book in my post. So many tissues!!! 4y
Eggs @CaroPi Yes!! So emotional 4y
MoonWitch94 Thanks for playing 🌸☺️📖 4y
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brandierickson
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This one is taking me a while to get through it....It‘s a very heavy memoir.

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Scochrane26
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I loved this book! Yes, it was sad, serious, and full of death, but it resonated with me. As most of you know, Ward writes about her childhood/young adulthood and alternates with the stories of 5 men who died in her neighborhood, including her brother. She writes vividly about the obstacles Black men & women face in her area, her grief, and her community. I connected to her loss of young friends. I‘ve lost young ones to car accidents, suicide, 👇

Scochrane26 Kayak accident, heart conditions, leukemia, and diabetes. Ward writes so well about grief. #authoramonth @Soubhiville I‘ve had this book on my bookspin list for a long time, glad I finally read it. 4y
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Soubhiville
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This is my first by Jesmyn Ward. I love the way she writes and will definitely be reading more.

She‘s seen so much tragedy in her life. It‘s obvious by the blurb, but be prepared to cry.

#authoramonth

Scochrane26 I‘m reading this, too. Can‘t help but think about the loss of her husband last year on top of these losses. 4y
Megabooks Fantastic review! 4y
ValerieAndBooks Still waiting for this one from the library! Your review is making me more impatient for my turn. 4y
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Megabooks
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What a compelling, devastating read. Jesmyn has seen so much loss, and she writes so eloquently about it. She follows the deaths of five close-to-her men in reverse chronological order back to her brothers death, while following her family‘s life forward from her parents‘ courtship in alternate chapters. If you have any doubts about the unique difficulties of being Black in the US, especially in the Deep South, read this. #audiobook #authoramonth

Cinfhen For some reason when I read this one I didn‘t connect. I LOVED Sing so much so I was surprised not to have loved her NF 🤷🏼‍♀️ 4y
Cinfhen Are u not sleeping again??? ☹️ 4y
Megabooks @Cinfhen I went to bed early. 👍🏻 4y
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Megabooks @Cinfhen see, I didn‘t connect with Sing at all. So maybe there is something to liking either her fiction or her nonfiction. 4y
Scochrane26 @Cinfhen @Megabooks I was just thinking last night about my reactions to Sing & this one. I‘ll finish Men we Reaped today & love it. I liked Sing but didn‘t connect with it as much. 4y
Cinfhen So interesting @Megabooks @Scochrane26 and I generally PREFER nonfiction but for some reason I was gobsmacked by 4y
Cinfhen Her fiction is obviously heavily influenced by her own story so I feel like all her books fiction & NF feel similar @Scochrane26 and I didn‘t care for 4y
Megabooks @Scochrane26 @Cinfhen I think part of what turned me against SUS was all the graphic vomiting. But I agree her fiction is strongly influenced by her real life. I feel like I need to read more by her. 4y
Scochrane26 @Megabooks @Cinfhen Lol, I think some of the graphic images bothered me, too, in SUS. The beginning with goat & then other descriptions. I appreciated the themes of the book. 4y
Come-read-with-me This book really moved me. 4y
Megabooks @Come-read-with-me me as well. 4y
Centique I‘ve loved this and the two novels - but Salvage the Bones was my favourite so I‘m probably the inverse of @Cinfhen 😂😂 4y
Cinfhen Why am I not surprised @Centique ?!?!!! 😘 4y
Cinfhen Yeah the vomiting and goat was a bit much @Scochrane26 @Megabooks 4y
Megabooks @Centique I haven‘t read Salvage yet. 4y
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Come-read-with-me
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Throughout my life, I have tried to understand the dynamics of race, to “put myself in the shoes of another person.” Ward‘s book helped me realize that I have never once come close to truly understanding what it is like to live in a world where you are not protected by the umbrella of colour and privilege. This book was a stunning lesson in how to truly understand race - we should all read it if we want to learn a little more. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

Suet624 Great review for a great book. 4y
SamAnne One of the more powerful memoirs I‘ve read. Great review. 4y
kspenmoll Great review!!!! 4y
Come-read-with-me @Suetara @SamAnne @kspenmoll Thanks! It was such a powerful book. 4y
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Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks Beautiful ❤️❤️❤️ 4y
TheKidUpstairs ❤❤❤ 4y
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Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks
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#Memoir
#ThankfulThoughts

I would love to meet her... She has lost so many men in her life.. 💔

This is heart wrenching to read, but please do 👇🏻😪😓💔

https://www.vanityfair.com/culture/2020/08/jesmyn-ward-on-husbands-death-and-gri...

SamAnne Loved this one. 4y
Eggs 😞💔😥 4y
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shaynarae
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A beautifully written and heartbreaking memoir of grief, poverty, race, and the loss of black men‘s lives close to Ward. An important and moving book for everyone to read.

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MallenNC
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I‘ve read Jesmyn Ward‘s fiction but not her nonfiction work. This one is on my TBR, as is The Fire This Time, a collection of essays she edited, all responding to James Baldwin. #AugustAuthors

Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks I love her! I haven‘t read this one yet either! 4y
OriginalCyn620 I‘ve never read her! 🤭 4y
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“My entire community suffered from a lack of trust: we didn‘t trust society to provide the basics of a good education, safety, access to good jobs, fairness in the justice system. And even as we distrusted the society around us, the culture that cornered us and told us we're perpetually less, we distrusted each other.“
#integrateyourshelf

ChasingOm Wow. This book is on my TBR. ❤️ 4y
WhatWouldJaneDo @ChasingOm it was incredible. I had a lot of hi lights from it; the first one I tried to use was way over the character limit though. 4y
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But this grief, for all its awful weight, insists that he matters. What we carry of Roger and Demond and CJ and Ronald says they matter. I have written only the nuggets of my friends‘ lives. This story is only a hint of what my brother‘s life was worth, more than the 19 years he lived, more than the 13 years he‘s been dead. It is worth more than I can say. And there‘s my dilemma, because all I can do in the end is say.

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WhatWouldJaneDo
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Over five years, Jesmyn Ward lost five men she was close to, including her brother. She weaves their stories with her memories of growing up in Mississippi, exploring the ways that poverty and institutional racism contributed to their deaths. This was a tough read but so worth it. #integrateyourshelf

SamAnne Loved this one. 4y
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I thought this book would gut me. It switches between stories of deaths of young black men in the author's hometown and her personal memoir. While it was well written and I connected to the memoir sections, the accounts of death did not grab me as much. It finally all came together with the author's brother's death, which was the second to last chapter. That delay in truly personal connection to these deaths took me out too much too often.

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Selena85
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Gorgeous day for a boat ride. Been slowly making my way through this book, hoping to finish it this weekend. It hasn't captured me as much as I thought, but it's especially hard to get into with scenery like this.

Nute Welcome to Litsy! It‘s a warm and friendly community. I know that you will enjoy yourself here. I‘m looking forward to getting to know you!🙂 4y
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This incredible memoir of life, love, & loss is a kindle deal today.

kspenmoll Thanks for posting this. 4y
SamanthaMarie Just bought it! Thank you :) 4y
SamAnne Ward's memoir is one of the best I've read in a long time. Highly recommend! 4y
megnews @kspenmoll @SamanthaMarie you‘re welcome! 4y
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candority
Men We Reaped | Jesmyn Ward
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What a heartbreaking and moving memoir. 4 ⭐️

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That's my 13 year old son walking to Radiant Students (youth group) first the first time in several months. This campus is 45 minutes away. But I don't mind, I'm enjoying the sunshine in my car and reading the tagged book. @TheBookHippie @Wife @Sward7 #LMPBC

ImperfectCJ Pre-covid, I never imagined missing that carting-kids-places downtime. Now I look on those times with nostalgia. No in-person youth gatherings for us yet, and with our cases rising as they are here, doesn't look like they'll be starting any time soon, even with masks. 5y
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Liz_M
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Yay! I just picked up the two books I ordered for #BlackoutBestsellerList and #BlackPublishingPower.

I loved the one book I read by J. Ward and Citizen had an intriguing description.

Good Talk is a relevant bonus buy -- Indian mother has variations of The Talk with her mixed race son, told in graphic novel format!

BarbaraBB Great pick and pic 😀 5y
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TheBookHippie ✊🏼 5y
TheBookHippie @Maria514626 Of course ✊🏼 5y
Amandajoy That‘s a great list! Now I just need to find more time to read! 5y
Chrissyreadit @Amandajoy - yes- my school schedule is getting in the way of my education. 5y
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'After I left New York, I found the adage about time healing all wounds
to be false: grief doesn‘t fade. Grief scabs over like my scars and pulls into
new, painful configurations as it knits. It hurts in new ways. We are never
free from grief. We are never free from the feeling that we have failed. We
are never free from self-loathing. We are never free from the feeling that
something is wrong with us, not with the world that made this mess.'