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The book's big picture is excellent. Harding clearly outlines the rape myths that permeate our society and are woven deeply into our beliefs about sexuality, our justice system and our media. But the book also feels dated. Much has shifted since 2015. In five years, we've had the #metoo movement and a sexual predator elected president. Perhaps that is unavoidable when writing about current affairs but Harding might consider an updated edition.

I joined the book club at my internship site (a crisis center for domestic violence/sexual assault). This is the current pick.
I like the play on the scarlet letter on the cover.

This was brilliant. Harding brings in countless examples and studies whilst still using her own voice and keeping the focus on rape culture specifically. It is a very well-researched and thought through book. I love her voice and her use of sarcasm, because, as she says, if we can‘t laugh about some of this we‘ll just cry. This should be required reading for everyone everywhere, as she presents some solutions to the problems highlighted, 5🌟

having a lazy Saturday out in the garden, alternating between this and the Sophie Kinsella I have on the go. Complete opposites but enjoying both and definitely needing the breaks from the difficult subject of Asking for It.

The weather here has been all over the place today so it‘s been a sit inside and do some dissertation research kind of day📑📚

Has anyone read this and do you recommend it?
(or if you have any [non-fiction] recommendations for any books on this kind of topic I‘m all ears!)

#7days7books Day 4

I‘m cheating a bit and going with two books today, because it was the combination of the two, that made them so important for me. Both of these deal with rape victims and the victim blaming they experience, which became the subject of my Master‘s thesis at uni, and which made me want to help rape victims even more. As I do now in my job as a psychologist at a rape crisis center

#7favesin7days @lauren.lerner 📚

Congratulations on your milestone @StillLookingForCarmenSanDiego 👏👏 and what a great giveaway!

My fave girl power/feminist book might be this, which looks at rape culture in America. It is an infuriating read, but it motivated me to do more, to do something! 💪

#GirlPowerGiveaway

As difficult as the topic is, I think it's a very interesting read and really challenges the reader to check their own bias.

I thought the author made the issue fairly easily accessible with a good mix between research and real life examples.

Her use of granfallon to explain Gamer Gate is seriously a revelation. Not just for Gamer Gate, but for Rape Culture in general.

Not the most uplifting topic, but an important one nonetheless. A must read - or listen.

The epigraph Harding chose for the book is a perfect summary and introduction. “From time immemorial the rule has been not to punish the male offender, but to get the victim out of his way. Susan B. Anthony, 1896” Here we are 122 years later, still dealing with the same b.s. And there lies the premise of Kate Harding‘s book. Harding clearly did her research, but she also has a stake in the story. We all do.

Full review at www.TheBibliophage.com

Next up on audio. I‘m not far along and it‘s already so intense!

It also seems like the perfect follow up to my last (Delusions of Gender) listen. Review on that one coming up shortly.

#DearMrPresident, you might not know this, but there is this thing called consent and respect for women. If you want to learn more about it, and just learn about how messed up some parts of your system is, I would suggest you read this 👍

#FierceFeb

This was a really good and much needed during this time with all the sexual accusations going on and the victim shaming. - feminist classic @Cinfhen
#Booked2018

The worst kind of #Battlebetweenthesexes - rape culture, rape myths and victim blaming.

#SpookyOctober

A super important book about rape culture and the way we allow it to persist in modern society. Harding writes well and is exceptionally researched. My only criticism is that at times her chapters seemed somewhat scattered structurally. This should be required reading for all.

Who knew? Ducks eh? 🦆

Hoping this is better than my last read

Catching up onJune reviews-I actually finished the library e-book a couple of weeks ago.😬This is a small dose book-meaning I found myself best able to read it in small bursts because the subject matter is so difficult & upsetting. Still, mixed in with all of frustrating, heartbreaking, & anger-inducing stories & facts are hope, awareness, proactive steps & people who are doing something about our pervasive rape culture. A good & necessary read.👍

Its an easy reading, would recommend for young people/ teens - Brings up an interesting topic

Not a lighthearted book for a Friday morning but my library e-book hold is due back in a of couple days so I am knocking out a few chapters over breakfast before tackling some work. So far, it's powerful and good, although difficult to read. Breakfast is an Acai bowl & cold brew coffee for a warm Aloha Friday morning. 🌺

I know I post about this a lot, but it is just so good! It might seem bleak but at the same time the book tells you to #dontstopbelieving in something different, something better. I don't read a lot of non-fiction, but this is without a doubt my favourite 🙌

#RockinMay #5555giveaway

An outstanding gut punch of truth about rape in our society, this book will make you angry in a good way. Please read this, then buy copies for all the young people in your life, particularly the men. As Harding emphasizes, until we teach men not to rape, it will continue to happen far too much.

Ok, it may be weird to have a "love" sticker on a book about rape. However, I LOVED this book because I learned so much & saw how previous beliefs I had were horrifically wrong (my mom whom I love very much is guilty of perpetuating rape myths- obvious product of rape culture). EVERYONE NEEDS 2 READ THIS BOOK!!!! Should be required reading in high school & college! Teach men NOT TO RAPE as opposed teaching women how not to be raped. #BlameLitsy

Disc 6: wow I guess I never realized how the male detectives on Law & Order:SVU perpetuate rape culture. It's been a long time since I've watched it, but wow Olivia shouldn't have been the only voice of reason! EVERYONE NEEDS TO READ/LISTEN TO THIS BOOK!!!!

Disc 5: it wasn't until 1993 (in MY lifetime folks- I was 1!) that marital rape was illegal in all 50 states. I already hated Bill O'Reilly, but him suggesting Sean Hornbeck enjoyed being held captive by a pedophile?! Eat shit & choke & die O'Reilly! Asking victims why they didn't try to flee is indeed victim blaming. Reproduction abuse is real w/domestic partners. Both genders should be called out on their abuses. Every1 needs 2 know RAPE IS RAPE

From Disc 5: 30,000 pregnancies result each year in the US bc of a rape. Some old men in positions of power in this country are fucking disgusting w: their distinction between kinds of rape, "legitimate, absolute" etc aka misogynistic BS. Getting wet during a rape is an evolutionary factor bc if the vagina is dry u could die from potential infections from the damage and wounds. The "crime has consequences" speech on part of the writer was comical

On Disc 4: I need to write this down before I forget: Consent cannot be pre-arranged like in the case of partners waking each other with sexual acts. You need consent EVERY time. Consent cannot be applied retroactively.

This book makes me want to smash some patriarchy! Of course, I always want to do that. ✊✊✊

Pt 3 of Reaction to Disc 2: 5) Even more pressure is put on women to prevent rape not just of themselves but their friends as well & to enact "the buddy system". Men aren't taught to use "the buddy system" to prevent from getting mugged are they? 6) 2-8% of rape charges are "false". Why no exact percentage? Bc the cops can claim it as false bc they don't believe the victim & same for a prosecutor. Evidence be damned. All the WOMAN's credibility.

Pt 2 reaction to Disc 2: 3) 98% of rapists are men which means rape is not a woman's issue- it's EVERYONES ISSUE!!! So yes that means 2% of rapists are women & those victims are even marginalized further. 4) a 13 yr old boy being anally raped w/ a pencil by several older male teens leads the VICTIM's father to getting a lower paying job out of town bc of the harshness directed towards the VICTIM & HIS FAMILY. Apparentlythe problem was the boy told

so much to process on disc 2 of the audiobook Pt 1: 1) It's not cool for a guy to point out to his friends that multiple guys penetrating & urinating on an unconscious girl is RAPE- wtf!?!?!? It angers me so much that teaching boys not to rape is something that has to be taught but as also taught on the disk, 2) boys grow up in the same culture & hear about the differences between good girls & sluts, provocative clothing, men needing to be men...

Whoa- listening to the audiobook in my car and one psychologist made aware to a group of sorority girls that the mentality of "going in a group to a party and leaving no one behind" was the mentality of soldiers going into battle.

This is what men don't understand. Women are TRAINED to believe they're going into battle every time they step out of the house. Or for some women it's in their own homes.

I couldn't recommend this book enough, both to men and women. Please read it to get informed about what rape culture actually is and how to combat it.

Excellent cultural study, and when I finished it I didn't feel nearly as hopeless as when I read Missoula. Harding strikes the right balance between exasperation/emotion and facts/solutions. I especially liked the section on rape culture and comedy, which I made my husband listen to and debate with me. Harding is a great follow on twitter and I just saw she works at my alma mater in the women's resource center there, which is awesome.

My #bestofJanuary books. I still talk about Asking for It to everyone who will listen. I loved the last two books in the Liveship Traders trilogy (read the first a couple of months ago), and I can't wait to read more of Robin Hobb's books. I am currently the reading the third book in the Daughter of Smoke and Bone series, and I have completely fallen in love with Laini Taylor's writing style, and I need more of it in my life ❤

#readJanuary

This book seems appropriate in light of recent events.

I'm 2/3 through this, and holy shit. I personally already know most of what Harding is writing about, but DAMN this book is galvanizing! She is a brilliant and unexpectedly funny writer. Whether you already understand "rape culture" or the term makes you roll your eyes, this is an essential read. I've had the physical book since it was released, but never got around to it—so glad to be listening now! [TW for intense discussion of rape.]

A. Must. Read. It took a while because I had to take breaks, otherwise I was going to break things. I can't emphasize enough how important this book is. Enough is enough. 5🌟 (pic from earlier today because being in a nicer place diffuses the stress caused by this book)

My 2 for 1 sale choices! Both terribly relevant at the moment, I think. I'm particularly interested in Eichmann in Jerusalem, the revised and expanded version of Hannah Arendt's controversial New Yorker reporting on Adolf Eichmann's trial. I somehow managed to graduate from The New School, which took in Arendt and other scholars fleeing fascism during & after WWII (the University in Exile), without reading any of her work. Time to remedy that!

I do not recommend listening to this audiobook while in line at Petco buying new cat food bowls. 😡😡😡 (I do recommend listening to it at other times)

I am a little bit behind on the #readJanuary post, but I plan on catching up the next couple of days. Today is all about a #topiciwouldliketolearnmoreabout - rape culture and victim blaming. And luckily this great book has three pages of suggested reading ready to dive into 👍

This book was like a punch to the gut. It made me breathless, speechless and angry. On top of that it is well written, funny in places, sarcastic and inspiring. I kinda want to read it again already! 👌

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My neck is hurting from nodding so much. 👏👏👏 #currentlyreading

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The little ball of anger in my stomach is growing, so I am trying to calm it down with brownies. 🔥 #currentlyreading

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Preach!

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Hubby snapped this while people were still boarding. Get seated, get reading! (This was from last night and I'm happy to be back home with my books and my own bed). Good riddance 2016. See you on the other side.

Some of my #laststackedbooks. I still need to update my to-read-list with all the new books I got for Christmas 📚

#seasonsreadings

So Hubby has taken over parenting duties tonight for Little man battling his ear infection and I've walked out to get some #booksandbrews time in and I ordered nachos. This is big enough for an army. I already regret this...in the best way. #ReadAndEat