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Finished for the Leadership Foundation 101 class I teach. Overall an interesting read & a pick. In a class of 16, the group found value in learning about their own tendencies (I‘m an Obliger who leans to Rebel), how they respond to internal & external expectations & how to work with differing tendencies. Although Rubin‘s data doesn‘t appear to be thoroughly tested/vetted, it makes sense & is another good tool to have + it‘s a fairly quick read.

I threw in the towel at the Obliger chapter. I get that the book is aiming for tendencies and not meant to be taken as a hard-line prescriptive for understanding people, but the writing and tone felt otherwise. This person studied law then turned to writing and is not a psychologist. The example phrases for all types other than Upholder (the author's) were petulant, childish at best.

Book that divides people into four groups based on how they respond to expectations. It can be a tad repetitive / annoying and there is more info on some types over others. BUT there is good info here. I found it especially helpful for understanding how different people respond in a work setting, which is valuable.

I listened to this one and think I would have gotten more out of it if I‘d read it. Not entirely sold, but definitely thought provoking and interesting. I‘ll go back and read it at some point. But because it held my interest and made me think a bit, definitely a pick.

As an avid listener of the podcast and reader of Gretchen‘s books, this was mostly review for me. Still, I always enjoy a refresher on keen insights.

Listening to this one, which has been on my list for awhile. #obligerhere

Finished American Hippo. Now onto this one. I keep hearing about it everywhere. Figured it was time for me to read it. Loved her Happiness Project.

Really enjoyed this book and the insight into one aspect of the self. It‘s helping me better understand my own identity in all its roles and my actions and responses in those roles. It‘s also helping me realize how I can better interact with others whom I sometimes struggle to communicate well with....

Definitely highly recommend it.

Okay.

It‘s a good book and a useful addition to Rubin‘s canon but brutally, I finished it because I got sick of seeing this on my “Currently Reading” stack 😂🤦🏻‍♀️😂.

If you‘re one of her podcast listeners, and I am, the book feels like a lot of repetition with limited new material but I still think there‘s value in knowing how people, including ones self, respond to Inner and Outer Expectations and it‘s readable, well written and well collated.

Liking this so far. I'm a sucker for personality stuff and I love Gretchen!

I liked it, but I think I would have liked it more if I didn‘t already get the bulk of the information from her Happier podcast.

⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️: Great overview of how to handle inner and outer expectations. I‘m an Obliger- what are you?

This was a really interesting personality profile book! I liked it because it was simple and informative. And insightful! I found the author to repeat herself fairly often, but overall I liked this book a lot.

Some good insights into why people act they way they do. It helped me to understand a bit better not just that other people don‘t always think the same way that I do, but how they do think. I found it helpful, if not earth-shattering. I will check out some of Rubin‘s other work.

I tracked Fika down at a library branch not too far from my office after discovering it here on Litsy yesterday. The others were in the new book section, plus I grabbed the One Book One Chicago selection. Re the Backman-I gave Beartown two stars and yet I picked up the sequel 🤔 I wonder why....I am a Questioner according to Gretchen Ruben‘s Four Tendencies so maybe I‘m questioning why I don‘t feel the Backman love that so many other do...🙃

I love Harry Potter, but fictional characters cannot be stated as valid examples for thesis in real-life psychology studies and books!

I am so sorry about this sentence I am casting, this was a book I so much anticipated reading and... It turned out to be such a disappointment! I don't disagree with the thesis, but the writing style (too much self-centred and enthusiastic) and the lack of data are preventing me from liking this book.

It all makes sense now.

After reading Anne Bogel's "Reading People" last year, I have found that learning about different personalities fascinating. This tagged book really helped me pinpoint my personality as well as my spouse's. Once you understand personalities, it can help you in your own life and how you interact with others. I am an upholder btw. I have learned a bit thru this book on how to deal with my obliger spouse as well. Enjoyed it a lot!

I immediately responded with "Can that be right?" So I guess it is ?

My plans for this afternoon.

Skimmed chunks. Interesting framework.

DNF!! It wasn‘t bad or anything. I just couldn‘t focus...

Rubin outlines four basic personality types based on how each type deals with expectations—both inner and outer. Having some insight into these types can help us cultivate better relationships with ourselves and others.

“As always, when we recognize a Tendency, we can communicate more effectively with a particular person. No matter how much love we feel, if we don‘t understand how to reach someone, our most well-intentioned words and actions can go astray.”

By contrast, OBLIGER/Rebels chafe more under external expectations and feel more resentful about others‘ demands. Like Rebels, they often feel pushed around, and they find it hard to count on themselves, and they react against any sense of coercion. Their Obligerness means that they find it hard to say no, but then they‘re likely to feel resentful and burned out and therefore more likely to show Obliger-rebellion.

Really looking forward to this book as I love her blog. I'm a Questioner fyi 😁

It‘s always interesting to examine human nature. I enjoyed learning more about this framework formed by how and why we handle inner and outer expectations. I learned more about myself and how to make subtle changes to make things better for myself and in my relationships.

I‘m an Obliger leaning toward Upholder, by the way. What are you? #thefourtendencies

Every so often a self-help/nonfic framework comes in and changes the game. Mars/Venus, 10k hours, 7 habits, etc.. I'm adding this one on my list. The simplicity of the model makes it accessible and digestible and can instantly switch your perspective on yourself and others.

Anyone else read this? Which tendency are you?
Surprise, surprise...I'm a Questioner!

I really enjoy Gretchen Rubin‘s writing and thought this book was an interesting read. I didn‘t completely buy into it (I don‘t think everyone necessarily fits into these categories) but a lot really resonated with me.

This book explores her concepts of the four tendencies even further than in Better than Before. Where Better than Before focused on how to use knowledge of your tendency to meet goals, this book focuses more on how to deal with a child, partner, boss or employee, or patient of each tendency type. It explains how to motivate or manage each type. Interesting stuff.

I guess I‘m on a self-help kick now. Finished Year of Yes, and instead of going back to the two other books I have in progress, I took this one off my TBR shelf.

Yay can't wait to start on my new Gretchen Rubin book. Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays everybody. 🌲😊

I have yet to read this but I hope to make it one of my first reads for the new year because I'm pretty sure that I won't get to it any time soon.
#four #novemberbythenumbers
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It's like Gretchen Rubin can see right into my soul. 😆#Rebel #fourtendencies

Gretchen Rubin's latest book on happiness, habits, and human nature. She identifies four ways that we respond to external and internal expectations, and explores what this means for the people with each tendency as well as those that interact with them. Very readable and thought provoking.

I'm already a fan of Gretchen Rubin's podcast and other books, but I hesitated to buy this one since I felt that I already had a good grasp on my own tendency (Obliger), but I'm glad I got a copy. I found this framework really helpful for both understanding myself and creating strategies that help me achieve my goals.

I received a very sweet care package today from my #LitsyPenPal, Maureen. Look at all the thoughtful handwritten notes on the wrapping paper. 🤗 I've never heard of this book, but I am definitely excited to check it out. Thanks Maureen! 😘 #LitsyPenPals

Can't believe Half Price Books had this already. Excited to read it. (I already know I'm a rebel!)

I‘m giving this a 🤘 for being a good version of what it is - a fun personality paradigm based on an unscientific but thoughtful analysis of expectations/motivation/behavior. The categories make sense, and many of the strategies for optimal living within each tendency seem useful. I‘m not a huge Rubin devotee, but I like thinking about how individuals respond differently to internal and external expectations, so I appreciated that emphasis.

Gretchen Rubin is one of my favorite podcasters. (Check out her Happier podcast.) She started her career as a law clerk for Supreme Court Justice Sandra Day O'Connor - and later realized she really wanted to be a writer. Gretchen was kind enough to sign and mail out bookplates for her latest book The Four Tendencies. This Rebel/Obliger is looking forward to reading it. 😎