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Hunger: A Memoir of (My) Body
Hunger: A Memoir of (My) Body | Roxane Gay
From the New York Times bestselling author of Bad Feminist a searingly honest memoir of food, weight, self-image, and learning how to feed your hunger while taking care of yourself. I ate and ate and ate in the hopes that if I made myself big, my body would be safe. I buried the girl I was because she ran into all kinds of trouble. I tried to erase every memory of her, but she is still there, somewhere. . . . I was trapped in my body, one that I barely recognized or understood, but at least I was safe. In her phenomenally popular essays and long-running Tumblr blog, Roxane Gay has written with intimacy and sensitivity about food and body, using her own emotional and psychological struggles as a means of exploring our shared anxieties over pleasure, consumption, appearance, and health. As a woman who describes her own body as wildly undisciplined, Roxane understands the tension between desire and denial, between self-comfort and self-care. In Hunger, she explores her past including the devastating act of violence that acted as a turning point in her young life and brings readers along on her journey to understand and ultimately save herself.With the bracing candor, vulnerability, and power that have made her one of the most admired writers of her generation, Roxane explores what it means to learn to take care of yourself: how to feed your hungers for delicious and satisfying food, a smaller and safer body, and a body that can love and be loved in a time when the bigger you are, the smaller your world becomes."
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Singout
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Roxane Gay takes a deep dive into what it feels like to be a very large Black woman who “built her body into a fortress” after a preteen gang rape. Lots of powerful insights here into all the ways fatphobia and racism manifest themselves, and her story of working toward claiming the space, physical and social, that she is entitled to.
#Nonfiction2024 #Blubber

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Singout

Before I go to a restaurant I obsessively check the restaurant‘s website, Google Images, and Yelp to see what kind of seating it has. Are the seats ultra modern and flimsy? Do they have arms and if so, what kind? Are there booths and if so does the table move or is it one of those tables welded between two benches? How long do I think I can sit in those chairs without screaming?
#Nonfiction2024 #Blubber

Octoberwoman This book was utterly fascinating and eye opening. 1mo
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RaeLovesToRead
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November #bookspinbingo @TheAromaofBooks

I'm hoping I can up my game this month, reading-wise. I've been so unfocused in recent times.

Need to do a full inventory of my shelves as well. Fingers crossed I'll be getting my own place so will need to sort out all of my books! It will be a huge job! 😅

TheAromaofBooks Woohoo!!! 2mo
Clare-Dragonfly Oh, that will be exciting! Good luck! 2mo
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Singout

Today, I am a fat woman. I don‘t think I‘m ugly, I don‘t hate myself in the way society would have me hate myself, but I do live in the world. I live in this body, in this world, and I hate the way the world all too often responds to this body. Intellectually, I recognize that I am not the problem: this world and its unwillingness to accept and accommodate me are the problem. But, I expect it‘s more likely that I can change before this culture.

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Kitta
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Trigger warnings for rape and eating disorders

I‘ve had this on the TBR for years because I knew there was a description of rape, and as a survivor myself, I wasn‘t in a place where I could read it.

I‘m glad I did.

Our stories are similar. We both suffered sexual assault and gained weight as a defence mechanism. We‘re queer. We both hunger for more. More food, more love, more acceptance.

I want to tell my own story one day. #botm

⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

Kitta Also yes I read this in a day! 10mo
Soubhiville Such an excellent book. 10mo
CaseyTheCanadianLesbrarian ❤️❤️❤️ 10mo
BarbaraBB What books can do for us ❤️‍🩹 10mo
Bookwomble 💗 10mo
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Kitta
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Got a cold and am staying for the weekend but feeling well enough to read now! Not so much the past few days.

This has been on the #TBR shelf for years because I was always worried it would be too intense but feeling like I want to read it now.

Anther black author for #blackhistorymonth and a #BOTM pick.

LiteraryinPA Glad you‘re on the mend! 10mo
Kitta Thanks @LiteraryinLawrence! So glad it‘s not Covid since I have a sore throat I was worried 10mo
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spaghedyy
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In depth conversation in which Roxane Gay shares the trials and tribulations of living in a world that is unaccommodating to large bodies. Gay also describes the societal pressures and gazes the world directs towards her due to her size.

“They see my size before they see me.”

Roxanne Gay is probably one of my favorite writers of modern literature.

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BookDee
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I really liked this book. Sometimes as humans we have this easiness to judge others without knowing what they are going through. I‘m including myself. This book opened my eyes about the life and the struggles of others.

#rape #eatingdisorder #fatphobia

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ChaoticMissAdventures
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#BlackHistoryMonth Recommendations
Day 7 Nonfiction

Roxane Gay is a powerhouse of a writer. All of her books are fantastic and make you think. Hunger is the incredibly personal story of her struggles with food, weight, and her body. It is a hard read (check trigger warnings!), but her writing and the messages conveyed are phenomenal.

DimeryRene I love her! 2y
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keepingupwiththepenguins
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Gay has described Hunger as “by far the hardest book I‘ve ever had to write”, and it‘s not hard to see why. I cannot fathom the bravery and strength it took for her to simply put these words on a page, let alone share them with the world in a best-selling memoir. I‘m in awe of her. https://keepingupwiththepenguins.com/hunger-roxane-gay/

Bklover This was a wonderful book! 2y
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Messiejessie
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Roxane says ‘Living in my body has expanded my empathy for other people and the truths of their bodies. Certainly, it has shown me the importance of inclusivity and acceptance (not merely tolerance) for diverse body types.‘
Reading this book will help the reader to do the same.

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Messiejessie
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Only page 11 and I like this book already

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SusanLee
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Eggs 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 2y
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Maria514626
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I can‘t imagine writing something so revealing. This book is a hard read, and amazing.

No matter who you are, you‘ll likely find something in here that sounds like it came out of your own brain.

I‘ll be thinking about this for a long time. 5/5 🌟

She reads the audiobook. 👍

Trigger warning: assault.

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SusanLee
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Eggs Well done 👍🏼 3y
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BeckyWithTheGoodBooks
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My haul from the Free Little Library today! 😍

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TabithaZ
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Finished Hunger in a couple of days, cried at the end, and now the first thing I‘m doing is ordering Gay‘s other books!

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jenniferw88
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TheAromaofBooks Woohoo!! 3y
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Carolyn11215
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#doublespin April. In this non-fiction memoir of her body, author explains how sexual trauma at 12 impacts the way she views her body, her self-esteem, her relationships with family members & future lovers. She writes about the emotional & physical pain she endures as she moves through the world at her size, the logistical challenges of navigating a world built for smaller people, & the ways she is both seen & not seen because of her size.

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vlwelser
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This book is so raw and beautiful. She talks about what it's like to live in her body. But also how she got to that point. It's stunning and I'd like to give her a hug but only in theory because I don't like to touch people either. She reads her own #audiobook and you can hear her emotions. I highly recommend it.

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BekaReid
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Moving, powerful memoir. Roxane Gay's writing is poignant as she shares her story.

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ManyWordsLater
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This book felt like a complete whine-fest. I‘d seen it around on all sorts of lists but I didn‘t get it. I went into this book wanting to listen and learn about being fat. But I don‘t know that I learned to sympathize with obesity. I just learned life is hard. But life is always hard.

Am I terrible? What did I miss?

LibrarianRyan I didn't care for this either. And I am obese. 4y
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JacqMac
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I really liked this one.
#hunger #SeptemberSenses

Eggs 👏🏻📚👏🏻 4y
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PrincessToad
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5 star

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candority
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This was a difficult, but incredibly powerful and vulnerable memoir. I can‘t believe I waited so long to read it. 4⭐️

This is my #LitsyAwardsWinner pick for #SummerFun Bingo and another #BookSpinBingo read.

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Karisa
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Honest, raw memoir examining a part of this writer's life focusing on her body and all the issues swirling around being overweight in a culture that does not value it (to say the least). I listened to the audiobook which the author read (love those best). It went by so fast. Good book giving lots of food for thought.

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LaurenMags
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Excellent book about a woman's struggle with life and her weight after being raped.

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derr.liz
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"It is a powerful lie to equate thinness with self-worth. Clearly, this lie is damn convincing because the weight-loss industry thrives. Women continue to try to bend themselves to societal will. Women continue to hunger. And so do I."

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sarahlandis
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love Roxane. Recommend

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PMMREADS
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#body #trauma #deep I highly recommend this deeply honest and authentic book. It‘s very raw and heartbreaking. Roxane Gay is my favorite author. 📚📖 Living in my body has expanded my empathy for other people and the truths of their bodies. Certainly, it has shown me the importance of inclusivity and acceptance (not merely tolerance) for diverse body types.”

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ChaoticMissAdventures
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Listened to this on audio because I love when Roxane Gay reads to me, even when the topic is tragic and heartbreaking
This book covers a lot from the trauma Gay went through in her earlier life, to how she lives in her body, to her emotional and mental well-being. It is not an easy light read but it is worth it.

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JSW
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I don't think I've ever read anything so completely, nakedly, tragically, honest and searching and real. Yet. Gay asks not for pity, but for consideration and space. Good grief, this woman can write.

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Megabooks
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I‘m exactly 3 weeks away from for 40, close to the age Roxane was when she wrote this. She & I both have complicated relationships with our bodies & our families, even though I‘m only “Lane Bryant fat”

My mother is particularly disturbed by my “health” aka weight. My doctor wants me to get bariatric surgery even though I barely qualify & have digestive problems. I better understand Roxane each time I read this. Behind every person is a story.

Eggs So true. And every story has its burdens and also its reliefs. Just keep attuned to your own soul...hugs to you ❤️❤️❤️ 5y
REPollock Don‘t get baritric unless you are certain. I have a lot of friends who did and some are pleased but others are not. It changes your life regardless. 5y
Megabooks @Eggs thanks very much Sherri!! I really appreciate your support 💙💙🤗🤗 5y
Megabooks @REPollock I don‘t plan to right now. I don‘t have the major health problems of obesity, and I do have celiac disease, so honestly, I think it‘s a horrible idea at this point for me. 5y
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KatieDid927
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1. Maya Angelou, John Lewis, Kamala Harris, Aaliyah, Lizzo and I gotta include Gizelle Bryant from RHOP 😂
2. Roxane Gay, Langston Hughes, Zora Neale Hurston, Colson Whitehead. I have a bunch of NK Jemisin that I can‘t wait to read. I need to read Octavia Butler too and could def use more of her work.
3. Both!
4. Literary fiction, fantasy, historical fiction
5. Hmm the Civil Rights Movement.

#blitsyhistorymonth #bhmswap @Chelleo

Chelleo Not Giselle! 😂🤣😂 She‘s such a mess. But I like her too 5y
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SShiney
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First book finished in 2020. Loved it! So honest and soul-searching reflections. Wow. Audiobook was read by the author.

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mothmonsterman
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“every body has a story and a history. here I offer mine with a memoir of my body and my hunger.” -Roxane Gay literally cannot WAIT to start reading this #feminism #feministbooks #roxanegay

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ephemeralwaltz
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I was curious when @BarbaraBB commented that she hadn't enjoyed this one but as I got further and further into it I found myself feeling the same way. Gay's honesty and transparency is not to be undermined, and I appreciate her bravery in publishing this memoir; however, its underdeveloped chapters that kept going all over the place in no relevant order or coherence didn't let me fully enjoy it and the writing itself felt empty and bland.

thebluestocking I felt the same way. It just needed a good editing. 💙 5y
BarbaraBB Exactly, Gay is very honest and brave but the story went all over the place and (for me) it became whining at a certain point and I became irritated despite the fact that I felt for Gay. Like @thebluestocking says, it needed editing, and a few pages less... 5y
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KatieDid927
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My #Top10ofTheDecade #NonFictionEdition is here! There are so many great books still on my TBR, but of the ones I‘ve read these are my faves. @Cinfhen

Cinfhen Love this collage💚I LOVED the Roxane Gay too!!!! And Heart Berries was soooooo heartbreaking 5y
alisiakae Next year WILL be the year I read What Happened. Every time I look at it, I think...too soon. 😫 5y
KatieDid927 @4thhouseontheleft I get it. It was NOT an easy read, but it was worth it. 5y
Riveted_Reader_Melissa @4thhouseontheleft It really was a great book, great on audiobook too...and honestly she outlines everything so clearly and so well, it‘s amazing to see, even at the time it was happening, and the time she wrote this, how much was spot on. 5y
BarbaraTheBibliophage Sooo many good ones here! 👊🏻♥️📚 5y
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kate_reads
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Today marks five years since I left my last (and hopefully forever last) treatment center for my anorexia. I‘ve wanted to read Roxane Gay for a while but have been afraid of being triggered by the food talk. I‘m so glad I‘m in a good place in my recovery because this book is amazing, Gay is such a wonderful writer. This book is a difficult read, as expected, but also an important story

Graciouswarriorprincess Congratulations on five years! 5y
MicheleinPhilly Congratulations! ❤️ 5y
TiredLibrarian That's awesome! 🙌🏼 5y
TiredLibrarian And I agree both that this is a phenomenal book, and it could be triggering for those who have or are recovering from eating disorders, body dysmorphic disorders, and/or sexual abuse. 5y
Megabooks Wow! Congratulations! I‘m so happy your recovery is going so well. 💙💙 5y
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ElizaMarie I loved this one 5y
Kalalalatja Such a good, but tough book! 5y
BarbaraBB I kind of hated it 😊 5y
ephemeralwaltz @BarbaraBB interesting! 5y
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"Why do we create the boundaries people create for themselves as challenges?"

Like Gay, I am not someone who enjoys hugging strangers. I feel like that kind of physical contact is something that should be reserved for people I know and care for, but I've often had people do similar things where they try to make me hug even after I've said I don't want to.

Megabooks My rule is don‘t touch people you don‘t know unless it‘s a fist bump or a handshake! Maybe a high five if you‘re doing something sporty! 5y
cornfedwellread @Megabooks I agree! I've never understood why hugging strangers is often seen as the norm. 5y
ElizaMarie I think sometimes it‘s a cultural thing. I am half Hispanic and we are “taught” very young to kiss and hug everyone when saying both “hi” and “bye”. I know my brother would just avoid social situations all together so not to have to hug everyone. 5y
cornfedwellread @ElizaMarie I have a friend from college whose family is Albanian and she also grew up with hugging and kissing everyone being the norm. She knows that I'm not a very touchy person and said that she's had to remind herself not to be as physical with me as she is with her family. Where I grew up most of the people I was around were white Midwesterners, but in high school people still thought I was weird for not wanting to hug everyone. 5y
cornfedwellread @ElizaMarie My roommate used to make a lot of jokes about me being an emotionally repressed Irish Catholic, but there's probably some truth to that. 🤷‍♀️ 5y
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Megabooks
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I did it! I f($&ing did it by 1.5k steps!! Woo hoo!! #LitsyWalkathon My feet are tired!! 👍🏻

Read 5 books this week. The best were Less and Hunger. 9/12 for the challenge. I have a procedure Tuesday, so we‘ll see what I revise it up to after that.

Also, I‘m remembering to Be Kind to myself, as we all should! I came back from depression and sleeplessness, sort of, and I‘m proud!

#bfc #bfcr2 #checkin #goteam

Bookwormjillk You should be proud! Good luck next week! 5y
alisiakae You rocked it!! 🤩🤩🤩 Way to go!! 5y
catebutler What an accomplishment! Your positivity is so contagious in this post! 🤗👏🏼 5y
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cobwebmoth You should be proud! You're very inspiring.❤ 5y
LapReader That book cover is gorgeous. Well done this week. Keep it up! 5y
cewilf Wonderful positivity!! Keep it up! 😁🙌 5y
KathyWheeler What a great week! 5y
britt_brooke Dang, girl! Great work! 💚🙌🏻 5y
Megabooks Thanks y‘all!! I am smiling ear-to-ear!! I love your encouragement and really appreciate it!! 💜💜💜 @Bookwormjillk @4thhouseontheleft @catebutler @cobwebmoth @LapReader @cewilf @KathyWheeler @britt_brooke Still resting my feet 🤣🤣🤣 5y
wanderinglynn Way to go! 🙌🏻 That‘s awesome! 🎉 Love the positivity! Keep it going! 5y
Megabooks @wanderinglynn Thanks so much!! 👍🏻💜💜 5y
sudi That is awesome 👏👏👏 5y
Emilymdxn Being kind to yourself is the most important bit of fitness imho! You‘re killing it, v proud of you! Good luck with the procedure, well all be here for you 💖 5y
Megabooks @sudi Thank you!! 😊💕😊 5y
Megabooks @Emilymdxn Thank you so much! I really appreciate how far we‘re coming as a team and how well we support each other! Awesome job captain! 💗💗 5y
Emilymdxn I‘m really proud of us too, we come from all over and have such different goals but we truly embody #goteam spirit lol 5y
TheEllieMo Brilliant, @Megabooks, well done!! I love this post! 5y
Megabooks @TheEllieMo Thank you so much!! 😊🤗💙 5y
Clwojick Way to girl! CRUSHED IT! 💪🏻🔥⭐️ 5y
mcipher Yay for crushing your goals and especially for the kindness to yourself - that stuff is tough when you feel icky. ♥️ 5y
Megabooks @Clwojick Thanks! 🙌🏻🙌🏻💙💕💙 5y
Megabooks @mcipher it totally is!! Thank you! 💛💛💛 5y
Reviewsbylola 👏🏻 👏🏻 👏🏻 5y
Megabooks @Reviewsbylola 😊😊😊 5y
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Megabooks
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Oh y‘all, how I turn to favorite books when times are rough! I love this book. I wish I could put my feelings about myself into words as beautifully as she does.

I picked this up in the middle of the night first when I didn‘t want to and then when I couldn‘t sleep. Then I took a lovely 4K+ step walk near dawn. Then I did some things. Then I slept fitfully. I just finished rereading this book.

If anyone has wisdom on mood disorders and sleep 👇🏻

Megabooks Please contact me here or at booksandcooks.litsy at gmail dot com! The only time I feel at peace is when I‘m alone but living alone is not feasible for me now. Anyway, #bfc #bfcr2 #goteam book 7/12 5y
SW-T Loved Hunger. Such a powerful book. I‘m sorry you didn‘t get a lot of sleep. Hope your back feels better at least. 5y
wanderinglynn Nothing on mood disorders, but I know for sleep, meditation helps. Also experts say not to use your phone before bed because the light disrupts sleep. Even the LED light in an alarm clock can disrupt sleep, which is why I use a sleep mask. I hope things get better for you. 💚 5y
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TheEllieMo I can‘t offer you any words of wisdom, 😔 but I can send a virtual hug 🤗 and hope you find some strategies that will help you sleep easier tonight x 5y
Suet624 No sleep over here too so I feel you. 5y
Megabooks @SW-T It is powerful. Thanks! 💜💜 5y
Megabooks @wanderinglynn Thanks for the advice! I just remembered that my psychiatrist has recommended that I try the app Calm for relaxation and meditation at night. Thanks for the reminder!! 😘 5y
Megabooks @TheEllieMo I love the hug! 🤗 Right back at ya! I just wish things were less messy in a lot of ways in my life. 🤷🏻‍♀️ sigh. 5y
Megabooks @Suet624 I‘m really sorry! It sucks. 💜😕 5y
wanderinglynn I tried calm. I like Relax Meditation a bit more. I also use its companion, Relax Melodies because I also use a noise machine & the app is great for when I travel. 5y
Emilymdxn Hunger had such an effect on me too, I read it in a day and emailed Roxane Gay afterwards, one of my favourite books of all time. I don‘t have any tips I‘m afraid, just generic ‘mental health is shit eh‘. I‘m not asleep because of low level anxiety rn despite being pretty sure tiredness causes the anxiety 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️solidarity always, we‘ll keep muddling on and there will be moments of big beauty and happiness sometimes while we muddle through 5y
Megabooks @wanderinglynn Thanks for the heads up! I‘ll look into them. 😁 5y
Megabooks @Emilymdxn I emailed her, too. 💗 I‘m sorry you‘re not sleeping right now. Anxiety sucks. I feel like anxiety robs me of my today so much. I get in a state where I just feel stuck in it and can‘t enjoy life as much as I should. And so much truth to your last sentence 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻 I hope you are asleep now. 5y
cobwebmoth This book is one of my favorite nonfiction reads. She and I seem to have a similar thought process. I'm sorry things are rough right now. Big hugs to you.❤ 5y
Megabooks @cobwebmoth Thanks, friend! 💕 it is definitely top five all-time reads for me. 5y
Dawnrod1970 Loved this book! 5y
Megabooks @Dawn_Rodriguez1970 👍🏻👍🏻💙 5y
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#unpopularopinion Everyone seems to love this book, but sadly not me. I wanted to. I really feel for her, and can‘t imagine how hard her life has been since she was gang raped at the age of 12. Horrible! However, I don‘t like repetition, and the book was all about repeating. I understand that that‘s the process she had/has to go through, but I don‘t enjoy repetition in books, and it‘s the book I‘m reviewing, not her life or personality.

StillLookingForCarmenSanDiego I'm not a huge fan of her memoir type books. I wish she wrote more fiction, because this is one of my all time favourite books 5y
Tove_Reads @StillLookingForCarmenSanDiego This is the only one I‘ve read so far. Need to check that one out! 5y
BarbaraBB Oh no your opinion is very popular with me. I was definitely not a fan too. 5y
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“This is a book about learning, however slowly, to allow myself to be seen and understood.”

Another Texas Saturday by the pool— I have a fun read and a scholarly read to dive into 🏊🏼‍♀️💦 Hunger has been on my reading list for a while, and since I work in health care I‘ve had a long interest in medical ethics. Can‘t wait to start both of these!!

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“When I wear my typical uniform, it feels like safety, like I can hide in plain sight. I become less of a target. I am taking up space, but I am doing so in an unassuming manner so I am less of a problem, less of a disturbance. This is what I tell myself. “ from Roxane Gay‘s Hunger: A Memoir of my Body.

#quotsyjune19 #uniform