The patriarch… ugh.
The patriarch… ugh.
Not as revelatory as I was hoping, but still provided a sound case for the need to address the stress as well as the stressor. I‘ve often wondered why I didn‘t feel the relief when a stressful situation passed…now I know why. And will be looking for my personal hows for reliably completing the stress cycle going forward.
I‘m not going 2say there was anything groundbreaking here, but I‘ll say it had great reminders of the things we should be doing when experiencing stress or burnout. (It‘s amazing when stuck in a stress cycle how easy it is 2forget that something as easy as eating regular meals can help.) It‘s a straightforward, easy 2read book, w/good prompts &helpful tips. I do think it helped me w/a few reminders &can see this being a good gift for a new adult.
I really dislike books like this that use stories to exemplify what they are talking about. Just give me the facts and give me the research that backs it up.
This wasn't a particularly useful book. I don't know when it was written to place it in the timeline of burn out books but I've read better. The advice given was nothing new. There was an emphasis on exercise which was oddly placed.
Small parts of this book were helpful (like even *more* motivation to work out), but overall I didn‘t really relate. I don‘t think I‘m a “human giver” or feel overly obligated to take care of others. But, I know many people (mostly women) do. All the stuff about the bikini industrial complex felt overly dramatized, but I suppose that‘s how a lot of women do feel. So, I‘m sure this book is important for someone, but maybe not me
Two small children shouldn't be this hard. But I feel like I'm running on fumes. Maybe this book will give me something to hold on to
#bookchain
Read a book with "The" in a title
Some great information here about what causes burnout and tips for managing it, not just in your professional life but in your personal life as well. A lot of time is spent examining the added work that women are tasked with sure to inequality and the patriarchy which was both infuriating and empowering. I enjoyed on #audio, may have been a little too repetitive otherwise. #BookspinBingo
⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ I don‘t read much #selfhelp, but this grabbed and held my attention, offering so much insight into how we respond to stress.
This book has many helpful tools for women who are experiencing burnout. I think this book is particularly helpful for those women who are in a career where they feel the pressure of the patriarchy to conform. This has many helpful tips for anyone experiencing stress who need to get clear about what they want from life. They cover many topics afflicting women. Its funny and playful, so if you‘re looking for a serious book this isn‘t for you.
Wowza! This book was an unexpected combination of a deep dove into moving out of burnout and the underlying societal systems that drive us into it. A very thorough exploration of patriarchy and it‘s effects on modern day women.
I‘ve finally found a self-help (or “self-care”) book for me! Read my full review here: https://debbybrauer.org/#burnout-the-secret-to-unlocking-the-...
Somewhere in Georgia...
I've been listening to this audiobook when it's my turn to drive. I've already ordered myself a physical copy that I can mark passages in. I'd recommend it for anyone who is perceived as female.
Not a great self help book. I didn‘t learn how to manage stress or anything new for that matter. It WAS very affirming and validating but nothing to help the actual problems we have. ⭐️⭐️
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Book #12: This book was PHENOMENAL. I listened to it as an audiobook and loved every single minute of it. As a somatic therapist, I found a lot of the info in this book so refreshing to hear delivered in a manageable and relatable way. This is not a *self-help* book - it‘s a collection of tools & information to help survive our current world while also calling us to action in building a new world of collective & creative care.
Emily and Amelia can write a book that is both scientific and nerdy, making it very relatable. Anyone reading this book can see a part of themselves in what they discuss IMO. We all deal with stress, some of us better than others.
I learned so much with this book, and from the first page I was nodding my head in OMGs.
I will take away 3 things: We are the new hotness; name the crazy lady in the attic; and complete the stress cycle.
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I think I‘ve hurt my neck from my constant nodding... and I‘m only 2 chapters in. I‘m looking at you 2020...#currentlylistening
🎧 Here comes an unfavorable opinion 😁
Started out fantastic with actual science, just what I needed. I began to feel empowered with the knowledge that I might successfully be able to overcome burnout.
Then came a surprise blame game attack that lasted the last 70% of the book & left me thinking I was supposed to feel like a victim & rile me. Evil patriarchy 🤨
I wanted to love this book, it was just ok ⭐️⭐️1/2
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2. Where Dreams Descend, The Wife Upstairs, The Vanishing Half, In A Holidaze, A Deadly Education, The Only Good Indians, Legendborn, Plain Bad Heroines, The Survivors, Pretty Little Wife annnnnnd Goodnight Beautiful.
3. Full Throttle (Joe Hill), Positive (David Wellington), Otaku (Chris Kluwe), NightLord (Garon Whited) & Always Look on the Bright Side of Life (Eric Idle)
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Thank you @EadieB
This is a book for any woman who has felt overwhelmed and exhausted by everything she had to do, and yet still worried she was not doing “enough.” Which is every woman we know—including us.
#Burnout #EmilyNagoski #AmeliaNagoski #FirstLineFridays #Nonfiction @ShyBookOwl
Getting out of stress and finding the strength and compassion within ourselves for ourselves means not just survival but thriving. As a creativity coach, I believe that we connect with our creativity to find our meaning and then use that creativity to manifest our meaning in the world. This book gives you tools which promote and empower you to make this happen. I'll be recommending it to every one of my clients.
Taking way longer to finish than I had planned...
While there are a few parts that will resonate with me - I think it was Chapter 6 that really struck me, and I really need to think of my madwoman - other parts just did not seem to gel for me. I suffer from much stress, but I don‘t identify with Human Giver Syndrome. Maybe I‘ll explore the book in a couple years again...
Thanks, @Chrissyreadit , for hosting a #buddyread for this!
#7books7days of books that left a deep impression or changed me. I was invited to do this by *2* different people today! Thanks @readordierachel and @JaclynW
This book changed my life. I couldn‘t conceptualize the stress/adrenal cycle and how it affects everyday life before this!
I had a really hard time connecting with this book. For me I found most of it I have already read or experienced. There was a lot of repeating the same idea over and over. There were a lot of metaphors using Disney movies which did not work for me. I am glad I read it because it really had me asking the question why am I so put off with this book which stretched my mind to uncomfortable places, which is a good thing.
So the author's suggest to make 2 of these calendars, a "real" one and an "ideal" one.
The free flowing take it as it comes bohemian in me just can not process such a rigid schedule.
Ummmmm... I'd have to say, as for me... Nope
Soooo why are we quoting Nietzsche but then putting an UGH behind his name.
While reading this self help book about burnout I came across this bit of Star Trek trivia I did not know. How cool is that!♡!
Our book club is going virtual this Thursday, so I should probably get the book read. 😬
Today was BEAUTIFUL here in southwestern West Virginia, so I spent a lot of time outside reading this and two other books I‘m reading to build my yoga curriculum for the rest of the year — whether we‘ll get to gather together or online.
What I forgot to do was use my stopwatch for #24b4Monday. 🤦🏻♀️
Didn‘t hit 24 hours but a decent time and Zi finished 4 books and started 2 more 😄 #Stayathome24in48 #24in48
I just finished Burnout- this last chapter about madwoman in the attic still needs some processing. I think my mad woman is in my front yard. What did my fellow #burnoutbuddyread friends think?
Catching up on my #burnoutbuddyread reading while waiting floor my massage...very appropriate for a chapter about rest. This chapter affirmed a lot of the changes I‘ve made in the last two years - switching to a part-time job, guarding my morning me time to do yoga, read, and have coffee alone, and making time for good cardio exercise. I still need more sleep but I‘m working on it and keep a consistent bedtime.
These all feel like a luxury to me. In fact, the term “self care” has become a stress trigger for me because it feels like a luxury.
So now, it‘s time to change not just my mindset, but my attitude- because this is hurting my daughter too. Of all the messages I wanted her to learn, I may have left out the message we must learn. #burnoutbuddyread
Chapter 7- this was the most eye opening- in my face- pot/kettle- chapter I have EVER read. How much of my inflammation and chronic illness and weight and fatigue is due to poor sleep? And guilt over not doing enough? And the expectation in my life that it‘s perfectly normal to work, grad school, homeschool, have teens, a house to care for, social justice to fight for, and prepare food?
#burnoutbuddyread
Hi friends. I reread chapter 6, and have been thinking quite a bit about this. What are your thoughts? #burnoutbuddyread
Don‘t judge it by the crap cover. As has been noted in the past, I have mixed results with self help and self improvement type books, but I actually found this really quite helpful. To use an Americanism, it's quite validating in some ways to see things that you have experienced or suspected talked about in a "proper" book. some of the worksheets on other areas.
Listening to this chapter while driving after getting about 4 hours of sleep last night. Ugh. 🤦🏼♀️😴
Chapter 6 hit me right away with this quote, “Social connection is a form of nourishment, like food.” Bam! I love that connection. If socializing is like food then we are all, understandably, very different! I don‘t have to socialize like others do, I just need enough to nourish myself. Bonus: the litmus test “Are you there for me” is such a simple way to determine if someone is trustworthy.
“But we need other people to teach us how to love ourselves best.” This hit me. Hard.
I think Chapter 6 has been the best chapter so far in this book, at least for me. For 2020, my word is the year is authentic. I‘ve felt adrift over the last few years, and making this decision to focus on this aspect has greatly helped. While I had not made the connection to burnout, it makes sense - so focused on stressors that I‘m missing a part of me. ⬇️⬇️⬇️