“In fact, for most of us who rely on blaming and finding fault, the need for control is so strong that we‘d rather have something be our fault than succumb to the bumper-sticker wisdom of ‘shit happens.‘ If stuff just happens, how do I control that? Fault-finding fools us into believing that someone is always to blame, hence, controlling the outcome is possible. But blame is as corrosive as it is unproductive.” #somuchtruth