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I was really nervous for this one because so many people said it wasn‘t as good as the others. I loved it, personally. I couldn‘t stand Anna‘s sister or family, but I enjoyed her mother coming around at the end. I loved Seeing Quan again. I wanted to give him a cuddle when it came out that he had cancer. He‘s so sweet. It was fun seeing Michael. He was in this one a lot. 👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻

GingerAntics I kept hoping that Quan would introduce Anna to Stella, but it didn‘t happen, at least not that we saw. There was even a little bit of Khai. 1y

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#Aspergers #neurodivergent #busbooks #audiobook #autismpride #autismisnottheproblem #crazyfamily #toxicfamily 1y

zezeki I like this one a lot also! 1y

GingerAntics @zezeki this one was so validating to me! 1y

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The Heart Principle | Helen Hoang

We all need a Quan or a Michael! I knew these guys exist (though they may be an endangered species). We just need more of them.
#HelenHoang #TheHeartPrinciple #autism
#Aspergers #neurodivergent #busbooks #audiobook #autismpride #autismisnottheproblem

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The Heart Principle | Helen Hoang

This isn‘t exactly the response I got. Mine was more like “but you‘re nothing like Rainman.” 🤦🏼‍♀️ If one more person compares me to Rainman, I‘m going to lose it. Congratulations Captain Obvious, I‘m not a man with amazing visual mathematics skills. That first one should have been pretty damn obvious, I think the second is also obvious, but what do I know. 100%, my family believes I‘m not autistic.

GingerAntics #HelenHoang #TheHeartPrinciple #autism
#Aspergers #neurodivergent #busbooks #audiobook #autismpride #autismisnottheproblem #iamnottheproblem 1y

julesG Yepp. Got similar responses. Plus, I can't have MS since I'm not bound to a wheelchair. 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️ 1y

kspenmoll As you know, Autism manifests itself differently in women & often is not recognized until later in life. And it certainly is a wide spectrum. My son‘s a text book case- was reading at three( road signs first), could get us from A to Z on any road that he had traveled on once before, social skills & motor issues a big clue. He is the most caring, kind,present, marvelous son who has found his freedom in releasing himself from a goal of “fitting in”. 1y

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quietlycuriouskate So, there I was, hugely relieved (albeit shocked at nearly 50) to discover there's a reason for my lifelong difficulties and I'm not just freakishly inept and my husband actually said, "you don't have to be this way, though: brains can change." ? 1y

GingerAntics @julesG oh FFS that is NOT how that works. It‘s MS that puts people in wheelchairs (if you have the right kind, apparently the other kind doesn‘t), not the wheelchair giving people MS! FOR. THE. LOVE!!! 🤬🥃 🤦🏼‍♀️ 1y

GingerAntics @kspenmoll LOVE your son for finding himself in giving up fitting in. I have a lot of those symptoms actually. For the longest time I joked that if I had been born 10-15 years later, I would have been diagnosed with autism. Never thought I‘d be diagnosed at 36. 1y

GingerAntics @kathedron OH FFS NO THEY CANNOT!!! Yes, brains can rewire themselves after injury, even rather severe injury. In that sense, they are very plastic and amazing. They can‘t just magically change their own chemistry, and autism is not just in the brain!!! I would have threatened him with divorce papers. Like Quan said “none of all this nonsense matters. If it helps you understand yourself and helps you feel understood and seen… (edited) 1y

GingerAntics @kathedron … that‘s all that matters.” You seriously are amazing to not have slapped him upside the head and left him for that. “Sure you are inherently this way, but you can choose to change the core of your being if you want to enough.” 🤬🥃🤬 He‘s one of those geniuses that thinks you can make yourself not clinically depressed or clinically anxious just by thinking happy thoughts, isn‘t he? I can‘t even with this crap! Big hugs!!! 1y

GingerAntics @kathedron you are an amazingly, beautiful, wonderfully autistic person. Why would you ever want to give up all the plus sides just to make other people happy? 🤬 that. 1y

GingerAntics @julesG @kspenmoll @kathedron here I was, afraid to “come out autistic” to people and of course I would find my people on Litsy! (I have to admit, I‘ve found some people on IG, too.) I love this all so much!!! I love all of you so much, too!!! 🧡🧡🧡 1y

quietlycuriouskate @GingerAntics Thing is, he's prone to depression so he knows how bloody hard it is. I get that he doesn't want me to limit my options by adopting a label but he fails to see how, in this case, it can actually be liberating. God knows I'm exhausted trying to teach myself to act NT my whole life! What riles me is, he'd NEVER say, "you don't have to be queer: brains can change" but my ND status is a whole other story. 1y

quietlycuriouskate Once again, the Litsy community proves itself to be somewhere I feel safe showing up as my real self. Thank you, thank you, thank you. ❤️ 1y

GingerAntics @kathedron okay, so there is room for some redemption there. Hm. It‘s frustrating that his depression technically labels him as neurodivergent as well. It seems odd he would so easily dismiss someone else‘s ND status. Oh I hate having to fake being NT. I recently read about autistic burnout and it is such a good description. Sometimes, I just need time and space to nap and be ND to the fullest. 1y

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The Bride Test | Helen Hoang

Khai needs this one, too. To touch him firmly right in the heart. Then, his family needs to be beat over the head with it.
#HelenHoang #TheBrideTest #autism
#Aspergers #neurodivergent #busbooks #audiobook #autismpride #bridezilla #autismisnottheproblem

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The Bride Test | Helen Hoang

Oh Khai, I love you so much. You‘re feeling so much, but they tell you there is something wrong with you and you feel nothing. You feel it man. It‘s okay you don‘t show it like they do.
#HelenHoang #TheBrideTest #autism
#Aspergers #neurodivergent #busbooks #audiobook #autismpride #bridezilla #autismisnottheproblem

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The Bride Test | Helen Hoang

Can we just talk about Khai‘s cousin Sara? I mean, seriously. She‘s a b!tch! She expects Khai to understand her, but doesn‘t give a shite about understanding Khai. His autism is no secret. She‘s fully aware of it. So he can‘t put his feelings into words. His comment “I've been wondering all night what's wrong with this wedding… It's Andy. He should be here” is Khai‘s way of saying Andy would have loved this. He would have wanted to be here.
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GingerAntics I miss him. I wish he was here. I wish he was still around. Instead of commiserating with her cousin, “yeah, I miss him too” or “I think he‘s haunting the DJ station over there” or anything remotely caring and loving, she condemns him, her new jack🤬 husband condemns him, and everyone at the table goes with “Khai put his foot in it again,” instead of recognising the one who put their foot in all of it was Sarah. 👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻 1y

GingerAntics I feel like this entire story would be so different if his family wasn‘t sitting here telling him, sending the message, that he doesn‘t feel emotions, and accepted him as he is and that he expresses and experiences emotions differently. Khai needs the above image to learn that he‘s okay. Sara (and the rest of the family) need the above image to get their heads out of their 🤬es. 1y

GingerAntics #HelenHoang #TheBrideTest #autism
#Aspergers #neurodivergent #busbooks #audiobook #autismpride #bridezilla #autismisnottheproblem 1y

JamieArc I read this a long time ago, but if I remember correctly, I didn‘t love this one as much as the first. I did love Khai, a lot! But the sexual relationship felt a bit problematic, forced and manipulative to me. 1y

GingerAntics @JamieArc her mother is definitely giving me creepy, manipulative vibes (then again so does his mother if I‘m honest). I guess I can see where it‘s that or stay poor, but it‘s still a little weird. I‘m waiting for her to somehow get diagnosed as on the spectrum in a minute here. 1y

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