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Men Have Called Her Crazy
Men Have Called Her Crazy: A Memoir | Anna Marie Tendler
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A powerful memoir that reckons with mental health as well as the insidious ways men impact the lives of women. In early 2021, popular artist Anna Marie Tendler checked herself into a psychiatric hospital following a year of crippling anxiety, depression and self-harm. Over two weeks, she underwent myriad psychological tests, participated in numerous therapy sessions, connected with fellow patients and experienced profound breakthroughs, such as when a doctor noted, There is a you inside that feels invisible to those looking at you from the outside. In Men Have Called Her Crazy, Tendler recounts her hospital experience as well as pivotal moments in her life that preceded and followed. As the title suggests, many of these moments are impacted by men: unrequited love in high school; the twenty-eight-year-old she lost her virginity to when she was sixteen; the frustrations and absurdities of dating in her mid-thirties; and her decision to freeze her eggs as all her friends were starting families. This stunning literary self-portrait examines the unreasonable expectations and pressures women face in the 21st century. Yet overwhelming and despairing as that can feel, Tendler ultimately offers a message of hope. Early in her stay in the hospital, she says, My wish for myself is that one day Ill reach a place where I can face hardship without trying to destroy myself. By the end of the book, she fulfills that wish.
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Victoriahoperose
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I really liked this book. I thought it was a really great view of a woman‘s struggle with mental health, but also her relationships as a woman. She combines a look at her issues along with her experiences relating to men and reflects on this and also raises a lot of thought provoking things about what it is to be a woman who struggles with mental health. Very brave to share and finish.

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britt_brooke
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⭐️⭐️⭐️ I barely even know who Tendler‘s famous ex-husband is, and that‘s because I had to google him, so that held zero bearing on my opinion. Celeb gossip isn‘t my strong point. This is tough because everyone has a story to tell, and memoir lends itself to freedom of expression and self indulgence. The discussions around mental health were good, relatable. But some of this went off the rails for me. I didn‘t love it, nor the title / cover combo.

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britt_brooke
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The books were so fun, the background was not. Love the outcome, though! 🎧🧩

#audiopuzzling

MatchlessMarie Solid backgrounds make me batty lol so pretty though 2mo
wanderinglynn Awesome puzzle. 🧩📚💜 But I agree, solid backgrounds are the worst! 2mo
britt_brooke @MatchlessMarie @wanderinglynn Yes! I usually try to avoid them. 2mo
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Chelsea.Poole
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Oh look, another memoir. This one about the author‘s struggles mentally and her subsequent experiences with inpatient treatment. This is one of those dual timelines, one featuring her more recent hospitalization and then everything that came before it. I was a bit unclear what dates/ages some events occurred. Much about the ways men have caused harm in many ways, plus her French bulldog. Love this cover art and title!

Chelsea.Poole I didn‘t realize Tendler was John Mulaney‘s wife when he cheated on her with actress Olivia Munn, though it‘s not covered in this book. I can imagine that majorly impacted her mental health. (edited) 2mo
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currentlyreadinginCO
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Whew the review describing this at 2013 tumblrcore is on the nose. The entire memoir reads as extremely young, and I really don't understand what the point of this was except to write a book. I was with AMT on her criticisms of men, but she's reading out sentences from her hospitalization records in order to dispute them and I mean damn, I feel like she's going to regret writing this when she gains a broader education about the underlying issues.

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everlocalwest
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With some space and time, I think Tendler could have written a strong memoir about her journey. Now was the opportune time for sales though and the book is not fully cooked. Capitalism strikes again!

currentlyreadinginCO Yeahhh 75% done & agree 3mo
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I realize that it was an event in her life that she had gotten through after she had healed; but there is a whole chapter about her dog dying that I had to skip. I had never heard of her, but it‘s decently written. I don‘t think that I‘m too sure on how the hospital stay helped her though.. I could have used more of that information.

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merelybookish
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First of all, if you read this book for dirt on Tendler's marriage and split from comedian John Mulvaney, you will be be disappointed. While there are oblique references to her marriage & divorce, he is never named & no deets are given. His absence is conspicuous. What Tendler does share is her decision to enter a psychiatric hospital for depression, self harm & suicidal ideation in early 2021. The book flips between her treatment & her history 👇

merelybookish With men starting with her relationships in adolescent up to meeting her (unnamed) husband. At the hospital, she undergoes rigorous testing and starts to feel understood. Her relationships reveal a history of poor treatment and general poor self-worth. For Tendler, there is a short line between misogyny and her mental health. Tendler is vulnerable and I found both timelines compelling (although I was waiting for Mulvaney). Tendler struggles & 6mo
merelybookish finds healing. Systems like patriarchy do hurt us. At times, she was a bit clueless about her privilege. She paints herself as aimless and unsuccessful but she also describes socializing in elite circles and passing on opportunities many would love to have. (She worked as a make up artist on sets before deciding she didn't like it.) Nevertheless, it's a moving memoir about mental health and healing. Thanks to #netgalley. 6mo
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merelybookish
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Kinda dropped all my other reading when this arrived from #netgalley yesterday. I have followed Tendler on IG for a while and enjoy her art and aesthetics.
Also curious to get the tea on her divorce from John Mulvaney. 👀

sarahbarnes Wow. Sounds very good. 6mo
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