Sarah Dessen is definitely a #notsofavoriteauthor for cherry picking a two year old quote from a grad student at an obscure school and using her platform to turn a lot of people against this poor woman. Jodi Picoult and Jennifer Weiner were particularly egregious at heaping on the mean. I hope they realize someday that #kindnessisbest 😞
Given what Dessen did, this apology is very lame.
#gratefulreads #namastenovember
Skeebies05 I was so sad to see some of the people dog piling on. IE Roxane Gay :( and Jennifer Weiner equating it MeToo!! 🙄🙄 5y
Eggs Yes yes yes just be kind - it‘s not that hard to do 🥰😍 5y
Megabooks @Skeebies05 I feel like Roxane‘s apology was the best, and Ng and Picoult using hers because they couldn‘t write a better one?? You‘re writers! 🙄🙄🙄 the whole situation was an exercise is women acting in a way they said they wouldn‘t act. People can not like your books. It doesn‘t mean they have “internalized misogyny.” It May mean they just don‘t like your writing and that‘s okay. I don‘t like Dessen, et al‘s shitty attitude/behavior. 5y
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Megabooks @Eggs Exactly. On social media I try to err on the side of kindness. I am not perfect, but I try not to be rude, catty, or mean. I just went through a major depression in 2017 and 18 so I realize how important that is. (And I‘m sorry for anything weird I said on Litsy those years. It was so bad that I have huge gaps in my memory.) 💙💙💙 5y
Eggs @Megabooks I don‘t recall anything too weird; I just remember you were struggling. I‘ve been there too (with depression) and when younger my filters were sometimes nonexistent 😳🤯 🙄... Growing older and modern meds have changed me. I‘m happy for you that you‘re feeling better❤️❤️ 5y
Megabooks @Eggs It was horrible to a factor of 10 worse than in my 20s when I first started seeing a psychiatrist. I‘m doing better with changed meds and weekly appointments, but it‘s so hard. I lost a job I loved because of it. I just didn‘t ever think it would be that bad for me which is conceited. The whole experience has given me more empathy and made me much more humble. 5y
MicheleinPhilly That whole shitshow reminded me why I gave up Twitter in the first place. 🐑 5y
Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks I missed it 🤷🏼♀️ What did Jodi do? 5y
Megabooks @MicheleinPhilly I‘m rarely on it, but I keep an account to read things like this first hand. 5y
MicheleinPhilly I still have an account and did go back to read it firsthand after I heard about it. The only reason I won‘t delete my account outright is because Ellen follows me. 😂 5y
Megabooks @Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks Sarah Dessen found a two year old article that quoted a grad student saying she got involved in her (small, very small) college‘s first year reading programs selection board because she didn‘t want Dessen‘s novel chose. Sarah cut off here, but the student instead wanted to pick some nonfiction about racism in the criminal justice system. First, it was one reader‘s personal opinion, second Dessen cut out the part about 👇🏻 5y
Megabooks @Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks that did get picked. So then a lot of writers including Picoult, Weiner, Gay, Vivian, Han, Angie Thomas, Silvera, Ng, Sepyts, Jemisin etc. heaped abuse on this student personally and publicly. It was sad and disappointing. Some have apologized, some haven‘t. I thought Jodi said some of the worst things and made a terrible apology. Jemisin hasn‘t apologized though, and she was very mean. The girl they attacked is in hiding. 5y
Megabooks @Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks It‘s just a sad situation that so many authors would turn into Regina George from Mean Girls. 5y
brittanythebookdragon I just read some of the articles and Dessen originally said something like we put our hearts and souls into our work. And like...exactly. You chose to do that and you chose to put it out there. Expect the criticism. Surely this isn‘t the first time someone hasn‘t liked her books. I‘m not sure why this group of grown women decided to gang up on this girl. 5y
SconsinBookyBadger Wow did you see Northern State U‘s apology to Dessen? People are lambasting them for throwing the student under the bus. 5y
Eggs @Megabooks I understand the severity—it affected my job and relationships with others. I am sending hugs and zen thoughts to you 💗💗 5y
Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks @MicheleinPhilly 🤣🤣 5y
Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks @Megabooks omg!!!! That‘s awful!!! 5y
OriginalCyn620 Wow 😳 5y
Megabooks @brittanythebookdragon Right? I mean I‘m sure there are negative reviews on some books on amazon, goodreads, etc. Why did she pick out this one girl in a tiny South Dakota paper?? And why was everyone else so eager to attack?? 5y
Megabooks @AnansiGirl Yes, I thought they were horrible for not supporting their student!! 5y
Megabooks @Eggs Thank you so much! It‘s sad how many people can relate. I felt like coming public after a blogger I follow on Instagram did. I really appreciate how supportive you are and your kind soul. 💕💕 5y
Megabooks @Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks @OriginalCyn620 it was terrible seeing so many adult women act so immature and mean. Some were downright vicious. 5y
MicheleinPhilly @Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks Clearly it means we‘re best friends. 😉 5y
Megabooks @MicheleinPhilly Ellen is a national treasure! Never. Delete. Your. Account! 5y
Eggs You‘re welcome. I try to treat others the way that I wish to be treated. My circumstances and missteps have humbled me...❤️❤️ 5y
Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks @MicheleinPhilly clearly!! Besties for sure!! 5y
Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks @Megabooks Sher is the sweetest 💗💗💗💗 5y
CoverToCoverGirl How awful! 😢 5y
Megabooks @CoverToCoverGirl I just found it so disappointing. So many authors, so much negativity. 5y
CoverToCoverGirl I was completely oblivious until I saw your post, but what occurred is very, very disappointing and quite shocking! As authors they should understand the power of words. 5y
Jee_HookedOnBookz Thank you for sharing this! I had no idea! This is so heartbreaking...These authors are supposed to be inspiring, walk the talk and practice what they preach. To see Picoult, See, and Gay's names here, authors whom I look up to, as some of the 'bullies', is so disheartening 😭 5y
Jee_HookedOnBookz Sorry not 'See'. Gah thought I saw her name. This is what happens when one types half awake. I wanna say Angie Thomas. Not See. Also why did the Uni have to apologize? I don't see the reason! 5y
Megabooks @Jee_HookedOnBookz Right! I‘m not a fan of Weiner‘s writing, but she went so far as to compare a student not liking Dessen‘s writing to Larry Nasser???? The whole thing was just awful. 5y
Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks I just googled this!! I was totally unaware!! 5y
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