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Going through my shelves for this challenge has given me some books I forgot I had and I'm now excited to read, and other books that I'm unsure why they ended up on my shelves in the first place. This is the latter. 😀

12/100 I enjoyed this nonfiction book on the psychology of affairs immensely. Definitely a good read if you‘re into broadening your perspective on the questions of monogamy!

This should be required reading for anyone interested in committed relationships. Esther always centers a person‘s humanity with kindness and curiosity and offers up insight into conversations and experiences you may relate to, or not. I do wish there would have been more examples of non heterosexual couples and non traditional relationship structures.

(Continued)...Reddit forum deadbedrooms (membership in the tens of thousands). Big data analyst Seth Stephens-Davidowitz reports in the New York Times that Google searches for "sexless marriage" outnumber searches related to any other marital issue.

People often ask What is the difference between jealousy and envy? A definition I have found helpful is that envy relates to something you want but do not have, whereas jealousy relates to something you have but are afraid of losing. Therefore, envy is a tango between two people, yet the dance of jealousy requires three. Envy and jealousy are close cousins and often become intertwined.

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Very comprehensive, downright and extremely useful analysis

An absolutely great read. No bias in depth look at infidelity or perhaps missing pieces we all try to fill that a village one did. Question is, how do get our village back?

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An amazing analysis of infidelity. I really think everyone should read it (actually, you should listen to it because Esther Perel reads it herself and she has a great Belgian accent). I have much more ability to see the gray surrounding an affair, which is important because you will not get through your life without having infidelity touch you in some way (through parents, family, or friends, if not through partners). This is a helpful foundation.

This book paints a spectrum of gray where we tend to see only black or white. Perel sheds light on the complexities of marriage and infidelity, without condoning the latter... or necessarily the prior either. From a sociological standpoint, I found it fascinating

I listened to the audio book of this one. Infidelity is a loaded topic and this book handles it with logic, compassion, and wisdom. A book worth checking out if you‘ve ever been effected by an affair or are just curious about the topic.

I learn so much about myself and the complexities of being human when I read Perel. While I loved her 1st book better, I learned a lot about my own views on infidelity. Also, on what I want from a partner. Am I looking for my everything? Maybe at some point that was a goal. But, now it‘s more like who can I share my life with where I can combine my independence with my desire for companionship. Overall, an eye opening read and highly recommended.

4*
The first two thirds of the book were a nice build up for the last third, that finally showed ways to live honest and equal relationships. I suggest Dossie Easton's "The ethical slut" as a follow up read, which is a little bit more in depth.

Almost finished, the last third of the book being really great.

#thestateofaffairs #estherperel #relationships #polyamory #love #booklove

Xmas gift from my sister. Starting to read right now. Very curious about it.

#newin #estherperel #gift #nonfiction #psychology

As a therapist, as a woman, and as a person in a relationship, Esther Perel has been essential to my learning and curiosity.

If you think infidelity is black + white, please think again. Our idea of marriage/monogamy is increasingly becoming something we demand so much from: emotional intimacy and sexual excitement and a family and partner for mundane life tasks. Infidelity deserves some attention as we navigate around this impossible ideal.