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Can love be created in a laboratory, using just a series of increasingly personal questions? Is love something that happens to us or a deliberate decision we make? How can two people who seem to have the perfect love story still end up divorced? Is there such thing as a soul mate? These are just some of the questions Mandy explores in this delightful essay collection.

Heck, my 30 year old self needs to hear this sometimes too!

Seems appropriate for today. Happy Valentines Day Littens ❤️❣️💓💞📚

“Maybe all our worry about how to find love and how to make it last is what keeps us from asking how to be good to one another - and how to love each other well.”

“Maybe instead of telling stories about how we met our partners, we should all share our stories about the limits of love - the times it disappointed us, the apprehensions it couldn‘t soothe - and why we chose it anyway, or why we let it go.”

A very interesting but not quite fascinating memoir/essay collection about love, dating, and relationships. She writes about the dissolution of the college relationship she spent her twenties in, her parents' and grandmother's marriages, love stories in Western pop culture, and her newest relationship and its catalyst of 36 questions to discuss to fall in love with anyone (the original essay which was published in NY Times's Modern Love column).

I thought this book was about a series of questions used in a study to allow people to get to know one another and what those outcomes were. While the questions are there at the end, it‘s actually mostly the author‘s own musings on love and her own relationships. There are some solid essays in the middle and end, but I found the opening weak and wishy-washy.

I really enjoyed the article that led to this book. It‘s really interesting and definitely makes you think.

I listened to this as an audiobook and I fucking loved it. So refreshing to read a candid and honest look at love and love stories.

A friend bought me this book and insisted that I read it. It's a memoir, and my friend found profound truths about the complexity of relationships within the author's story of finding, losing and finding love again. I thought it was just "meh" and that the author's never ending quest for a boyfriend watered down the intensity of any "soul searching" she did during the couple of months she was single. Does contain some very well written essays.

I haven't fully collected my thoughts yet, but I already know this book has given me much to think about. The author wrote the 2015 NYT Modern Love essay, "To Fall in Love with Anyone, Do This" that was all over the Internet. She talks about that, but she also talks about what love is and how it comes to be and her own issues with love...and I feel like she's been listening in to all my conversations with friends. I recommend it!