Some grad school reading with my little buddy, Ginger.
This week we suddenly lost my husband‘s father. It‘s a devastating blow to our family, but also because of the bonds and connections he created we have the support system in place to get us through. My friend‘s sister (a child psychiatrist) recommended these books for our boys. They are so lucky (as all of us are) to have had the 7 years they had with him. We will work to honor his memory and keep him alive in our hearts.
Had a lot of information for me. I found out why I would overthink any bit of attention(positive or negative) I got from the other gender -- because I have an Anxious Attachment Style.
I think that this book is a must read for anyone who wants to have a relationship or is already in one.
Understanding the Styles is easy, but making things work are difficult, that's why they have sections on how to make things work as well(thank God for that!).
I have an anxious attachment style, with half of secure attachment and a tiny bit of avoidant attachment. Great going till now, only half the book remains.
Honestly speaking, for a teenager the books I've been reading are a bit too much, but at the same time extremely helpful for what's about to come in life.
Does anyone have any tips for me, as I'm heading towards my first proper relationship?
#MarchMagic #FocusOnMentalHealth Still on the TBR.Most prosperous countries know that some of us have an unhealthy relationship with stuff . Many of us succumb to the feeling that the right car, handbag, or something will fill the void we feel.Hope these writings point in another direction.
A hard book to review because I see some faults in it (it‘s repetitive & sometimes contradictory) but I admire Gabor Mate and agree with everything he says regarding attachment and parenting. I love that he says ‘don‘t parent from a book - not even this one‘. He argues that we‘ve lost some of our natural instincts and because of this, & the way society is, kids have stronger attachments to their peers rather than adults which causes problems.
I was very dubious of this book, but after hearing a friend prescribes it in her therapy practice, it was worth a chance! I learned my secure relationship has healed a lot of my anxious attachment. I really appreciated that this book doesn‘t shame anxious attachment! If you‘re stuck in an unhappy pattern with relationships, this is a basic, heteronormative, and monoganormative guide but also a quick, clear, helpful, healing, worthwhile read.
The book seems somewhat insightful and useful at first but then becomes too repetitive.