Honest, frustrating, maddening, and real, you will no doubt read this book nodding and saying, "Yup!" the whole way through, much as I did. Valenti's voice is strong (her detractors will say strident, thus only proving her point) throughout. Her advice on each point could be more thorough in places. I really wish more men would read this but I fear that won't happen. (Plus, bonus Buffy reference!)