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3.5/5

Obviously not a “fun” read. Informational read. Dealing some difficult relationships. This book had some valid points and some I couldn‘t help but relate to. Gave me some things to think about as I start a new chapter and practice some self care.

Feelings shouldn‘t be judged as either good or bad. Feelings are emotional energy; they are not personality traits.

I‘d like to report a murder 😅

Life changing. When you learn to not live for other people, you are free to heal and live a well-balanced life.

My #SomethingAboutAddiction pick for #Nonfiction2020

It‘s important to remember as our country deals with a lot of opioid and prescription drug abuse, enabled by some doctors and pharmaceutical companies as we are now finding out in lawsuits, that dependency effects the whole family, not just those addicted. All their loved ones, and the coping strategies they used to survive, are something we as a country have to be aware of and work through.⤵️

I‘ve been reading this book since last year. It‘s a lot to think about, so it took me time to process between chapters. This is an important book. I don‘t know if it‘s the best book about codependency on the market, but it‘s a good one. It has made me aware of unhealthy behaviors that are not serving my current relationships well, and it has been part of the process of recovering/healing from past relationships.

Don‘t mind the sticker on the top right 😜

Everyone should read this book. Even if you don‘t believe you have codependency issues, I promise that you probably have some codependent habits that are dragging down your life. If your life is shit-all right now, and you don‘t know why, and you want to make it better this book needs to be the next one you pick up.

Calling on my Litsy family for suggestions. Almost two years ago my husband lost his best friend at 29 and today his mother at 55. Both were of addiction related causes. We are headed to a Nar-Anon meeting for the first time tomorrow. I can ask you all because I have very few IRL friends here and it would be disrespectful to address this issue on other social media platforms. Do you have any books that you've found helpful in a similar situation?

A passive-aggressive friendquaintance gave this to me years ago, as "something to think about," which irritated the shit out of me ? but somehow I never got rid of it. Apparently some part of me wants to read it. So, here goes.

"Defining the problem is important because it helps determine the solution. Here, the solution is vital. It means feeling better. It means recovery...the heart of the definition and recovery lies not in the other person...it lies in ourselves, in the ways we have let other...behaviors affect us..."