Conversational but not a page turner, I still found it worth the read. Her argument is we can't (& shouldn't) eradicate judgment, so we need to educate ourselves to our biases. Read about how gossip creates alliances and sets expectations; the unrealistic taboo of blame in friendships; praise as penicillin (42)& the "revised relational contract (173); why praise can go badly when unresponsive or out of sync with our goals, values, or esteem.