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"We are afraid of dying alone, but no one really knows lonely better than a married woman sitting next to her silent husband." Ooooooooooofff. I'm not sure about my feelings on this book, but the author does know how to cut to the bone on this subject.

One of the best divorce memoirs I‘ve read! Lyz paints a picture of a marriage that many women will recognize. She realizes she‘s not happy and that her husband has got to go! Required reading if you‘re happily divorced or unhappily married and want the push to go for a separation. This is a memoir of a specific marriage and circumstances with facts and broad statements about heterosexual relationships. For this reason, it‘s not for everyone.

⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ I enjoyed this. I tend to agree with her critiques of marriage and the expectations it places specifically on women‘s labor. Her marriage and ex husband both sound awful, (so much so that I actually thanked my partner for not being a condescending tool while reading it). I totally support finding fulfillment on one‘s own, but it is also possible to find a fulfilling partnership with someone who is not an entitled jerk.

I really enjoyed the author's book Godland. This one is also a well-written memoir back with solid research about marriage, divorce and life ever after.

Some of this is the author venting about what was wrong in her marriage that led to divorce, but it's also making a case for options other than marriage and the need for actual equality in marriage. There is also a parallel disillusionment with her evangelical upbringing.

Holy sh!t is Lyz a bitter divorcée! But her thoughts on the patriarchal implications of modern American marriages were quite interesting. As much memoir as sociology, I didn‘t like that she seemed to look down on women who felt differently about marriage than she does. However, many of the reasons she listed for her divorce and continued singledom are why I‘ve never been a fan. ??‍♀️ Be ready to have OPINIONS!