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“You didn‘t manifest everything bad in your life…” and furthermore the idea that you must be constantly pursuing happiness and staying positive can lead to anxiety and depression. Instead, Goodman advises us on how to be genuinely supportive of ourselves and others as we ditch toxic positivity for a more value driven life.

In a happiness-driven life, we're focused on maintaining a good mood, seeking out only positive and happy experiences, and achieving happiness as the ultimate goal. A value-driven life allows you to prioritize what is important to you and find a path to get there. It makes room for the fact that living in accordance with our values doesn't always mean feeling happy or good, but it is in alignment with who we are and what we want.

This book started as a cri de couer against toxic positivity, but about halfway through, it mostly turned into a psychology book, which lessened my enjoyment of it. Also, the chapter "Discrimination With a Smile" was absurd. Over all, I would recommend this book, but readers who are interested in this topic would be better off reading "SHAM" by Steve Salerno, and "Brightsided" by Barbara Ehrenreich.

But here's the thing: emotions aren't intellectual. You can't think them away or deny them out of existence. Emotions don't always tell the truth and sometimes we interpret them incorrectly, but they're there for a reason. Telling yourself that you shouldn't be feeling something won't change that reality.

Just be positive! If it were that easy or effective, we'd all be doing it. Allow yourself to experience what it means to be human-- the good and the bad.

This is a helpful tool for anyone‘s toolkit. I really appreciated this timely read. 🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤

I feel like this book sums up my life pretty well right now. People are always saying to “look on the bright side” or that “things will get better” and that doesn‘t help when someone is going through difficult times. My coworkers are likely sick of me mentioning toxic positivity because I bring it up every time I notice it, which is a lot. I recommend to anyone who‘s been told to count their blessings whilst having a mental breakdown.

I devoured this when it came out Tuesday. Goodman talks about how unrelenting positivity and “good vibes only” culture can hurt instead of help.

As a person with chronic health issues, I often want people to listen rather than offer positive platitudes. She talks about how to support people when they‘re dealing with ableism, racism, homophobia, and other situations and how to deal when you‘re the one facing problems. Great self help book!

Just noticed that libro.fm updated from track lists to the chapter names (double-checked with a romance I‘m also in the middle of). This was basically my one critique from when trying to flip between audio and print on some titles and I am thrilled.

Planning to audio binge this new release today (have no experience with author‘s work am just glad to see this topic having more resources)